Chapter 1
THE AUTHOR
My name is Johnny Shack from Melbourne Australia. The following chapters cover the hardest question men face as we enter the new millennium…. How to get the woman you desire?
I am 28 years old and have experienced women in many shapes and forms. At fourteen I lost my virginity in a caravan parks bushland whilst two of my friends were watching. I encouraged the girl to stand up and let my mates see her naked body. This was their first experience with a girl and I was more than proud to provide it.
We were in Canberra, Australia's capital playing in the fourteen and under National tennis championships. My friend’s mother drove us from Melbourne and looked after us. This came about through our mutual tennis coach at our local club in Melbourne. She booked us all into the caravan park which was very exciting. Both Braden (the mothers son) and myself dreamt of becoming tennis professionals and this was our debut trip of what turned out to be one of many in an emotional period of my life, my teens.
One day after winning through to the 3rd round of the championships I was playing table tennis in the games room of the park with my teammates. Another group of young people came into the room and they started playing pool. One of their group took all of our eyes as she was very flirty and daring. She was wearing a short dress that barely covered her ass. We were watching her and she obviously enjoyed the attention we gave her. It was her turn to lay her shot up and boy did she play one. She bent over right in front of us and to our amazement she was not wearing any panties. Well, did this get all of our hearts racing. I don't know if we were embarrassed, scared or just plain excited. We just continued to play our game as though nothing had happened. I don't know what Braden and Tony were feeling but I was thinking here is a chance to get what we had been speculating about for years. I went straight up to her and asked if she would like to meet me here at the games room in two hours. I wasn't scared because I realized she made the first move and now it was time for us to play our part if we were interested and more importantly if we had the courage. She said yes.
The guys came and asked what happened and I told them I would tell them back at the caravan. I didn't realize my methodology at the time, however I made an important move then. We left the games room. The date was made and by hanging around it would only throw caution to the wind and possibly stuff things up.
Back at the caravan I told the guys what was said and they were just as pleased as I was. Braden asked me," What are you going to do now Johnny"? This put somewhat of a dull on the initial excitement. Sure, I had a girl agreeing to my first proper date but I had no idea what to do. It was just as well Braden asked this because it made me think of a strategy. NOTE: If you fail to plan; you plan to fail! I rolled up to the games room and she was there waiting for me. I said hello and asked her to follow me. She asked where we were going and I replied, "somewhere where we can be by ourselves". There was no better place than in the scrub just outside the perimeter of the park. When we got there I immediately started kissing her. I was like a bull out of a gate. She went for it as much as I did. I took her clothes off until she was naked. All I did was unzip my fly. I laid her down on the ground and immediately penetrated her. I couldn't believe the feeling of actually doing it. I was really doing it. Mmm… I'd like to bring this sense of accomplishment back into my life once again. Part of the plan was for Braden and Tony to follow us and watch. When I finished I stood her up and turned her around so the guys could see what I had conquered and also for them to be a part of it. Even at this young age I was involving my mates. I crack up every time I think about how I included my mates on my very first time.
Up until my current relationship I had fucked over 500 different women. Only 5 of these women cracked it for more than a one-night stand. Part of the reason for this was that my first girlfriend and I had broken up and it took me about 5 years to fully separate emotionally from her. I actually felt as though I would be cheating on her if I slept with these girls on more than one occasion. This figure does not include the women I had a somewhat less adventure with.
I was a tennis professional, topless waiter and bouncer. I also spent about four or so years as an insurance agent. At my first office in South Yarra there was three secretaries. Within two weeks of employment I had slept with two of them and was sucked off by the third. Luckily my two managers were understanding. I had a relationship with a girl for two years and I was faithful throughout this time. I've had orgies, threesomes and even a time with four mates and 3 girls. I guess that's called a sevensome. There I witnessed one of my mates fuck the three different girls in a space of about twenty minutes. During this I was like a coach on the sidelines giving directions and helping with motivation. "Come on, you can do it. Just 10 more pumps". Ever since that day he has only answered to the name Danny Vegas. The LEGEND lives on.
I am 100% heterosexual with a voyeur nature. The reason for revealing my scoreboard like this to you is for you to understand I know what I'm talking about when it comes to meeting and completing relationships with women.
RULE: Do not ever try and manipulate your friends girlfriends or wives. This means that you only need to keep away from a small number of women in the whole world. If you break this rule and succeed, you will almost certainly lose this woman the same way you got her. What do you think this woman thinks of you for doing this to your friend? You'll never replace the trust you broke with your mate either. If your feeling this desperate then I suggest you put some money in your wallet and go to the pros. Ah, you want be the first, and definitely not the last to put your money where your mouth is!
An institution had evolved after losing my virginity in such a classic way. From then on the guys always attempted to get the best story and this usually involved group action. I'll let you the reader imagine what used to happen. But for now we are going to discuss the universal question of: "how do I land the woman I desire".
Chapter 2
THE BASICS
What are your greatest attributes? You need to make them ****SHINE**** like diamonds. Your weak points will need to be brought to a reasonable standard so they wont be an achilles heal. If you own a great car don't be afraid to show it. Just don't make it obvious. If your car is a bomb then make sure you don't present it as one. If you have great legs then show them. If you don't there is no need to be wearing shorts in the middle of winter even if the sun is out. Do the best with what you have!
Following are the major categories that will determine the package you put together to go on display in the dating world. Think of yourself as a car in a motor show. Each car has its own features and they all have one thing in common. There all presented in such a way that it gives everyone of them the highest chance of being bought.
PERSONAL HYGIENE
CLEANLY SHAVED
Unless your particular look is the unshaven one make sure you shave daily. Women hate receiving affection in the form of kissing from an unshaven man. Their skin is everything to them in their fight to keeping a glowing appearance. A whisker growth is like sandpaper rubbing against their skin. Most women use various forms of creams on a daily basis to soften and rejuvenate their skin giving them a more youthful and fresher look. An unshaven mans face will leave severe redness on the soft skin of a woman. It can also give the impression you have not showered and that's not attractive.
CLEANLINESS
Need we even cover this section? Always shower and present yourself as fresh as possible. It makes you feel better therefore giving you the confidence to attract women without an Achilles heel holding you back. The last thing you need when you could be talking to Miss Right is to be self-conscious that your fingernails are dirty. These are the hands that a woman fantasies about touching her face and stroking her. This fantasy doesn't involve dirty fingernails from her Knight in shining armor.
NOTE: First impressions can last a lifetime.
Don't bite your fingernails! It's a working class appearance and it turns women off. You just have to think how lovely a girls hands look when she has them manicured. The fingernails are so long and sexy looking. Would you want a girl with bitten dirty fingernails putting her hands around your genitals? No you wouldn't and they don't either.
SMELL
Have you ever sat next to someone with a sweaty smell. It's totally offensive. It gets to the point where you have to move or in my case I might even tell the person. At least then they could do something to fix their odor. My initial thoughts are that they know they smell and they are not doing anything about it. I know if I've got an odor because I can smell it. I believe this is the same for the majority of people. So if you smell people believe you actually accept this. A normal and decent person would do something to remedy the situation.
People can smell even if they have showered. Have you ever forgotten to put on deodorant or you have run out? Whatever the reason you must do something about it before people smell you and think you are dirty. Carry deodorant in your gym bag or in the glove box of your car so you'll always be prepared for an emergency.
Smokers must realize you smell even to other smokers. Be aware of your clothes for this can lead to a smell like you have been living on the streets. Your breath from a reasonable speaking distance can often be putrid. Have some tic-tacs or similar breath freshener with you at all times. If you don’t you'll be fighting an up hill battle. No girl wants to go out with a guy whose clothes stink and has foul breath. Also be aware of yellow stains on your fingers. If you wish to smoke change the way you hold the cigarette in your fingers regularly. A yellow stain on your fingers gives the dirty impression and somewhat of a poor persons appearance. Would a sex symbol have yellow smoky stains on his fingers? Get serious!
Think about how a woman catches your attention with the aroma of a seductive perfume. Imagine how it grabs a woman's attention if a man is wearing a cologne? Now women are more alert to smell than men because they have spent many years pampering their bodies with differing lines of cosmetics. So any effort by you on this frontier will not go unnoticed. All you have to do is follow these two guidelines.
NOTE 1: Once you decide to wear aftershave your attractiveness rises incredibly. Women pick up the slightest scent of aftershave and it grabs their attention. Whenever I wear aftershave I will invariably get compliments, whether it be in a bar or a petrol station. Women often even know the name of your after shave, and they love to tell you what it is. This brings us to the next point.
NOTE 2: I suggest buying an after-shave that is well known so it increases the possibility of women recognizing it. This single attention to detail can start many relationships for you. If a woman wanted to talk with you it provides a topic that they feel totally at home with, cosmetics. It can even start a conversation from a woman that had no previous interest in you.
STORY: A few years ago I walked into an elevator where there was a group of girls. I've never felt comfortable with really more than a couple of girls together when by myself, so I was not looking for this to be an opportunity. I was wearing aftershave and it was just at the right strength. The scent was prominent, but not over bearing like you may imagine a Las Vegas two-bit gangster would have. One of the girls asked me what brand it was, and before I had a chance to answer another girl said, ' I know what it is, don't tell me, it's '.... and just as she was about to unveil the mystery, another girl jumped in and said what the brand was. She was very excited about being the one to "spot the scent" and it started what ended up being an awesome night. These girls were from Sydney and they asked me if I had any friends that would like to meet them out tonight (I laughed to myself. Would I have any friends interested in meeting new girls?)? Apparently they had just been to lunch and I guessed they'd had a couple of drinks.
Because I was by myself they felt comfortable in asking me questions. You see they felt right at home because they were in a group. I just acted really nice and was conscious not to rattle their self-assurance. People always feel they deserve a degree of dominant respect by being in the leading group. If I broke this power, do you think they would have been comfortable in asking me to get my friends and myself to meet them later that night? I don't think so.
REMEMBER: There is often some (usually ugly) sour women’s liberation girl in a group, who will stuff the momentum up which is what leads to missing out on "story nights". So make note of not leaving her out of the conversation. This girl can be very influential, as she will pull the morality strings of the group. (This is the last thing you need out there in jungle warfare) Get her interested in you and let the games begin.
I ended up going out with them and it was another night I would not replace for anything. It was all made possible because I successfully made the ugly and mouthy girl like me from the group. This allowed the others to act their slutty selves.
After shave works!
Remember: Wear a popular trendy brand and make sure you can smell it just enough so it's not overbearing. The more popular the brand the more chance there is of a girl recognizing it and giving her a chance to show her wisdom to you. She thinks it gives her the chance to talk about an interesting subject; therefore she is confident in approaching you. Now most men do not regularly wear aftershave, so it separates you from the crowd of hungry competitors out there.
Your breath is another vital point in the smell area. If you have bad breath do not even think your mates want to be to close to you let alone a prospective woman. NOTE: Be careful of coffee breath.
Solution: Carry mints.
HAIRSTYLE
Who are the most beautiful women in the world? MODELS! This is for many reasons. The main however is their presentation. When have you ever seen a model without a hairstyle for what they are doing? Compare the woman who is bumming around on the weekend to when they go out. Now you all know that even mutton can be done up as lamb. Make sure your hair is nicely styled. Do not get lazy about haircuts or you will end up with the appearance of Yahoo Serious. Think of the male teachers you had at school and their basic appearance and hairstyle. It is often greasy and messed up like the Nutty Professor. I am not suggesting to present yourself like a poof. Just make sure you have made an attempt to keep the lawn on your head nicely shaped and cut.
NOTE: Do not let the weeds set in or there will be no harvest.
HEALTH
SMOKING
Full time addictive smoking is a downer. It looks negative and on the whole is offensive. What are you doing something that these days cannot be done inside most peoples homes and many public places? Instead you have to go outside like a dog to do your business. It reduces your fitness and decreases your motivation to exercise. On the whole losers are attracted to smoking full time. Have a look around at who is doing the majority of smoking and this should demonstrate my point. Who wants to kiss a loser ashtray; do you? It's up to you to free yourself of this self inflicted imprisonment. Well; what are you waiting for?
DRINKING
This is an interesting subject. I have picked up many women under the influence of alcohol. On the other hand I have also lost beautiful women this way.(Not many, but I have)
Alcohol can take away your inhibitions and shyness and give you the personality and courage you need to catch the women you desire. Often women in certain situations have had a few too many as well and you wouldn't be compatible if you weren't drinking. The problem with this relationship is that it is built around false emotions. People aren't necessarily acting their real self when drinking. I have a friend that just wants to argue and even fight people when he is drunk. Some people say alcohol brings out the real person. This is often a crock of shit! What it generally does is make people do things that are negative and totally out of character.
A couple of years ago I was in a pub in Melbourne Australia. The long and the short of it is I was stabbed in the face and stomach. I had 33 stitches from the top of my nose down to the bottom of my chin where my face was cut open. I also received 30 or so stitches in my stomach. I put this down to alcohol. I was sober but the guy was drunk. In court it was revealed the guy had no prior convictions. He sat there like a whimpering little lamb that probably could not even believe what he had done.
NOTE: If you are actually on a date, keep your alcohol intake to a reasonable level. Don't flirt with the out of control state because it will backfire in your face! You may not get another chance with this girl so have enough "spunk" about you to run with your own personality. However, I do suggest a few drinks, as it will open up your charisma.
How many times have you ever woken up with a woman you have slept with on the first night and it ended up in a beautiful relationship? What a joke! Remember you both met the night before and were extremely drunk. Would have that girl slept with you so easily without the influence of alcohol? I don't think so in most cases. Whilst sober a woman can fight her ever-present sexual urges and control them. These urges are a negative way to start a serious relationship if acted upon, or have been taken advantage of under the influence of alcohol. This is because these feelings of guilt and maybe shame will eat away at the girls core self image of herself and from day one she has shown you a part of her that she would not be proud of. Relationships need to be based on positive thoughts and actions. Sleeping with a girl while you are both drunk, especially after you have just met each other is a bad way to start.
If you are only interested in a one-night stand then by all means go for it. It will make a great talking point at the gym the next day. (The hours we have all spent telling our tales. It's like the stories were more important to us than the actual event) However; if you feel some real attraction with the woman you are partying with then you need to show real constraint.
"How"? You may ask.
At the end of the night do not put yourself in the situation where things can get out of hand. Get the woman’s phone number and follow it up when you are sober. No dropping her home and coming inside for one last drink. The only "last drinks' I have ever had have just turned into "the first fuck" and usually the last.
NOTE: If you think that physical can come before spiritual then in most cases you will continue to go from one woman to another. If you are not to sleazy the first night then the woman will think you are not like other guys she's met. Most of their drinking has involved men trying to get into their panties (don't you love the word panties!) so this tactic automatically makes you more special to her. Who wants a partner that is just like everyone else you have ever met? Don't be easy! Make yourself somewhat of a prize catch to the woman you are hunting.
AN OLD SAYING: My friends and I used to say we were easy to get, but hard to keep! The funny thing is that this made heaps of girlies try to tame us.
IMPORTANT: Make sure you kiss and hold the woman during or at the end of the night. These actions somewhat cement your place in their heart. It's vital to do this. You may not get another chance to create enough electricity to get them on another date. So you must create electricity and this is done through not only the mind but also body contact. The body contact is what has them dreaming about you when they go to bed that night. Hopefully sweet dreams where their teddy turns into you.
DIET
Think of a person who eats fresh fruit and vegetables, white meat and freshly squeezed fruit juices. Now think of a person a person who eats fried chips, hamburgers and general greasy foods. Who do you think would be more attractive? Go on; take a stab in the dark. If the answer is as I assume then why would you do anything else than follow this unless you are on a self-destructive path to depression and self-pity. The more negative diet the more negative vibes you give out. Who is attracted to negativity? Only negative people who feel they don't deserve any better. Is this the person you want to be? Remember: You are what you eat! What you put in is what you become!
APPEARANCE
CLOTHES
Clothes are one of the determining factors when people form an opinion of you. This opinion forming is in the first twenty seconds or so of meeting you. Clothes send signals of varying styles relating to your image. They represent clean cut or shaggy; stylish or bummish; trendy or square; rich or poor and many more according to the person making the judgment. Now if you represent any of the second categories of opinions then its time you took a good hard look at yourself. Of course only if you are trying to be a winner and catch the woman you desire. Ignore this advice and I will guarantee nothing will change for you.
When I used to go out I could almost tell if I was going to meet a girl that night by the way I felt about my outfit. If I weren’t comfortable I would really struggle. Now this doesn't mean I was wearing a tracksuit. But if I did not dress in any of the first examples then I would invariably not have success on that night. I feel this was largely due to the vibes I would give out which would match the outfit I was in. Your feelings don't lie very well.
NOTE: Dress successful, act successful and the world looks at you in different ways. Don't be a pretender; just do the best with what you have. One thousand dollars can make you look good in about five different outfits. For any guy in a full time working position there is no excuse here.
Remember: You are judged immediately by the clothes on your back.
HAIR CUT
Don' be nervous about using gel or other hair care products. Just the appearance of the wet look can add an enormous difference to your appearance. A woman will instantly read you as a person who is conscious of their appearance, which in their eyes puts you in the target zone. The guys who think this is what fairies do are the guys who go out with shockers. Have you ever heard of the perfect match? Well this is because some men and a women pair up beautifully. You just need to decide how good your match will be.
REMEMBER: A rose will thrive amongst its peers. Put it with weeds and it will die. I know which bush is for me!
WEIGHT
If you’re fat don't despair. The advantage here is that the only way for you to go is up (not round). Imagine how well would you present without the excess pounds and flab? The sky is the limit.
Women and men often judge fat people as lazy and unsuccessful. There may well be the most perfect woman for you staring right in your face and it never eventuates. She just looks at you as a lard-ass and you wont get the chance to show her any different. Can you blame her? She's certainly judged you right that your body appearance is not appealing.
Mark my words fat boys. Flab will kill you prematurely physically and more importantly when you are young, mentally.
If your skinny its a lot better than kilo problems. Ask yourself this. If there was two women on the earth left and one was fat and the other skinny, and this was the only information you had, which one would you pick? Sure some men like fat women however this book is based around the common rules of thought which would indicate the skinny woman
If you are the right weight for your height then you are a step in the right direction already. Make sure you maintain your condition. It's a lot easier to decline than to improve so be aware of your fortune.
* Next time your at the doctors ask him about your weight comparison with your height.
PHYSICAL CONDITION
Put up your hand if you want a woman who is healthy and fit and has a glow in her cheeks? Or would you prefer a lazy out of shape smoking couch potato? Surely you should never judge a book by its cover, but how can you not if you see two comparisons against each other like this! Women feel the same.
It's a conscious decision to start an exercise program. You can't allow the evilness of procrastination to hold you back any further. Or are you too scared? Don't feed yourself too much bullshit!
Reasons people give to why they’re not exercising:
I don't have the time. I'm naturally in good shape I'm not a sporty person. I plan to soon Let me shed some light on what I call cop-outs!
Time.... Have you ever noticed that the busiest people in this world can always find time for something they want to do. Why? They plan their schedule to fit things in. Do you have 15- 30 minutes at lunchtime to go for a walk or run three times a week? Do you have 15-30 minutes of television you can give up 3 times a week to go for a walk or a run in the fresh air? Don't treat yourself like an idiot trying to escape what is just a matter of prioritizing your weeks activities!
I'm naturally fit.......... You may well be to a certain degree. But first to really prove this to yourself I suggest you put it to a test. You may never know when you may have to run for your life or someone else’s. Try running a kilometer at a reasonable pace Mr. Natural. Try punching a bag for one round. If you pass these simple tests then I suggest you are wasting your physical talent. You are then obviously right at the bottom of your physical condition that your body is capable of handling. Is this being the best you can be?
I'm not a sporty person... Many men place themselves in this category. You poor old things. Can you swim? Can you run? Can you do any weight lifting? Can you ride a bike? Can you walk? All of these examples can be tailored to improve your physical being to an acceptable degree. Even Mr. Bean can do some or all of these examples. Stop being a complete wimp and make a move in the right direction. After all - you do want to attract the woman you desire don't you?
I'm planning to soon........... How long have you been saying this for? Procrastination is the work of demons in your mind. I used to work in a gym and one day a guy came in for a look around the center. I asked him when he intended to start his membership and exercise program? He replied "It's my friends birthday party in a week or so and I really want to be able to pig out and drink as much as I want". I replied in a rather frank manner, "What does that have to do with my question?" He said desperately, "Look, I definitely will start then because when I make a deadline for myself I keep it"!
- Can you believe people tried to sell me into believing their reasons for not developing their mind and body?
That's fine I said and then asked, "What about the Christmas holidays that are coming up in a couple of months? If you set patterns like this now, then what will you do when the silly season comes around? Oh and don't forget Easter after that my friend"? He joined and he's like a different person now.
The time is now because working out needs to tattooed in your mind as part of your schedule. Listen to your ‘gonnas’ and address it. If you don't now, it will be another year or so for you to get around to it. The longer this pattern continues then the harder it becomes to break. If you are saying that you are planning to soon then you should create peace with yourself by acting on your intentions. Stop being a poof and do it.
- Working out is the essence of youth! I don't like getting dressed up all the time to be presentable in the world. I do it though. I don't like taking out the rubbish but I do it. I hate washing the dishes but if I don't the mold will set in.
- Exercise is positive and it needs to be in your life schedule.
I have never finished a workout and been upset at myself for doing it. In fact every workout I have ever had has made me feel at peace with myself. Why wouldn't it if it makes me feel better and look fitter!
- Pencil in a workout at least 3 times a week and stick to it the same way you have to change your clothes each day.
I personally guarantee you will turn into a greatly improved person in ways you can not even imagine when you take the first step. You won't look back ever again. In fact you'll storm into action and feel you are ready to take on the world. Come on, you can do it!
YOUR CARS APPEARANCE
For most women I don't think a car is what determines there interest in you. Certainly it is attractive if you have a good car and you should definitely use it as a trump card whenever possible. The reason is that the woman immediately judges you as someone. Maybe they think you are rich. Maybe they think you are exciting. Maybe they think you are rugged. Maybe they think you must be a professional person. If you have an average car, these advantages wont come into play but don't think it matters much.
I'm not recommending going and blowing all your money, or taking out an expensive lease to buy a chick magnet car. I have friends with exotic cars and it really hasn't helped them to get the woman they desire. In fact the amount of times it has helped them to get laid could be counted on one hand. One thing is for sure and that is if your car is not in a presentable manner then many differing judgments will be made by your targets (potential women that you desire).
During the time I was single I visited many girls’ houses and to some luck but mainly planning, I ended up in there bedrooms. Immediately I formed a picture of the girl by the smell and cleanliness of her room. If it was fresh, it gave me the impression I would enjoy my time with this girl. The nicely scented room demonstrated she was clean and she has probably got a sweet pussy just waiting for me to dive into. She would more than likely have a nice haircut down below as well. In fact when the scene was right like this, I'd put on a show as though I was a porno star. I didn't want to just "Hump and Dump", so I'd give them the full treatment.
If their room was murky, and dirty clothes were on the floor I'd think their pussies would smell and their knickers would be unclean. They would probably have a hairy pussy that hasn't been attended to in a while and that was just about all I could take from this girl. Put these thoughts together and I would not feel comfortable in going ahead with my original plans and I wouldn't. This didn't apply when I was too drunk unfortunately! It gave me a sick feeling the next day if I'd gone through with rooting a dirty girl and all I would have gotten out of it was an empty and a story for my mates. (The story for my mates was worth it though Ha!)
If you are attempting to catch the woman you really desire then keep your car in the shape you think she would want your bedroom in. This is sometimes a key area guys mess up on and it may have proved to be a costly error in the past for some. Everything about you is a reflection on your overall attractiveness for when a woman is searching for the man she desires.
Could you imagine the woman you are courting jumps into your car and it smells like stale farts? Its not a turn on whereas if you had an air freshener in there it would make everything that much nicer. Simple things like this add up and determine your success.
This raps up the basics and I hope you take them as seriously as I have found them to be. You must picture yourself as an item up for auction and you are trying to get the highest possible bid! After all, what type of woman wants a dirty, unshaven, television addict sprouting off negative thoughts and information?
The only type that does is one that matches this description. Its time to give the impression that you are alive. You are well, and you feel GREAT!
Chapter 3
SEE YOUR TARGET
If you went up against Robin Hood in an archery contest we all know who would be the winner. What about the scenario when put like this.
- The target was placed at a distance where it was achievable for your arrow to hit it and within a few goes you would. Now we spin your opponent (Robin Hood) in a circle 50 times and blind fold him. The odds are well in your favor now even though Robin Hood is a great archer and you practically have not shot an arrow in your life before. You are physically capable of it though.
Why are the odds in your favor?
Well it's obvious. You can see the target and your mind is clear as to what you are aiming for. Poor old Robin is the greatest archer in the world but even he cannot beat you when his mind is scattered and unsure. He searches around for a target but it is not clear in his mind where the target is therefore he will never hit it.
How can you catch the woman you desire if you don't work out some guidelines to create a target to shoot for? Only losers settle for the first thing that comes along!
Following is the general variations of characteristics to look for in a target.
PHYSICAL
Is your target dark? Is she fair, or somewhere in the middle?
A close friend of mine loves dark skinned women. He knows this at the conscious level so he frequently goes to reggae and funk nights. Because he recognizes his tastes at the conscious level he is meeting the women he desires. It is only a matter of time before he will truly connect with one of these women spiritually and not just physically. He sees what is a major characteristic in the make up of his target and he places himself in the zone.
Is she Tall, Short or in the middle? I'm about 6 ft 2 inches tall and the woman I wanted was between 5ft 6 and 5ft 9 inches. Most of the women I have had relations with are in that vicinity. I just didn't aim for women outside that height and therefore it was extremely rare for me to be with a woman that wasn't in that range. What’s the use of me spending valuable targeting time on 1 in a million chance of me falling for a woman outside these guidelines? Stick with the odds and don't make things any harder than what they can be.
Is she Large, Skinny or medium weight?
To most men this option may seem obvious. However a few factors need to be taken into account with these choices. Are you a leg man? Are you an ass man? Are you a tit man?
Lets look at these favorites of men in some more detail.
If you are a leg man then the woman you desire would generally have a skinny frame. Long slender beautiful legs are what turn you on. Remember the legs on the babe in the film, "Woman in Red" and when the draft blew the dress up. A leg mans delight. Many women of this nature can be found at gyms and general sporting arenas. Remember, you need to be in some sort of shape as well. This may be the catalyst you need to get your physical condition in working order. You get to meet the women you desire whilst improving your health and physique. That really is a match made in heaven; don't you think?
Are you an ass man? Do you like your ass well rounded with some chunkiness? Do you like little bums with not much meat on them? A wise playboy once said, "The ass maketh the woman". Think about it. The ass sets up the overall appearance of the body you desire. The woman can have either large or small breasts and you will still be attracted to her body because of the ass situation. You must also take into consideration the effects of kids on the ass. This may be getting rather picky, however if you are looking for a lifetime partner then many things need to be taken into account. It could mean the end of your sex life with this woman once she has kids if you are a die-hard ass-man. And you wouldn't want to stray now would you?
Are you a tit-man? Do big firm juicy tits grab your attention? Or does little perky titties do it for you with good sized erect nipples. Most women with big tits do not class them as an erogenous zone for them. Many small breasted women have very sensitive nipples and can even orgasm from nipple attention alone. Remember that if you love big tits with a passion then you may have to realize most guys do too. It is difficult for a woman to hide her big tits even if she wants to. All of this adds up to a lot of attention from hungry men. Just make sure you know what you are up for with a big titted woman. I think I could write another book on Big tits. As Homer would put it from the Simpson’s... Mmmm
BIG TITS
I'm sure you have worked out already what grabs your attention. You may have even changed your category over the years. Don't think you are being a traitor to your previous love because there is plenty to go around for all. You need to be aware of your taste buds because you will hopefully only have one try at marriage and you want to get it right.
MENTAL
For many years men have been choosing the woman they desire purely from their physical appearance. This must be a contributing factor to the highest divorce rate ever.
What are you trophy men thinking?
The last thing you should do is end up in a marriage based upon just physical attraction because it won’t last! How many years do you think women have at their peak? Many men believe the best looking women only keep that freshness about them to a maximum of 25 years old. They feel the breasts are starting to sag along with the ass backed up by the face ageing away from the youthful beauty of them being a young girl. It's almost like they hit the wall many men say at this age. All of a sudden it creeps up on you and you wake up one day next to your wife and she looks like the wicked witch from the west. There has to be a strong mental bond between you for things to work.
If it is lustful sex you desire then do not expect this to last for too many years. The sex-life will only last through a spiritual connection. Be warned that this is the only way a sex-life will last over years. It may even get better.
Sometimes you'll wake up in the morning and your wife has bad breath; messy hair and is in a stinking foul mood. Without the spiritual connection there wont be lust for to long and a split is imminent.
Do you like loud women?
Well some men do. She will most likely be dominating and the dream of you being the King of your own home may only be a myth because you've accepted a Queen with full power.
These women are not hard to find because you can hear them. So good luck if you are into this sort of thing.
A homebody type tickles your fancy?
Now this is a sensible choice. If your career minded and feel your efforts in the workforce will be enough for you both to live to a standard you are happy with then this is the woman for you. She'll raise kids for you and at the same time bake a cake or prepare food for your pleasure. These women know the secret to keeping a man happy and one of the ways is through the stomach. They actually manipulate your mind because after a while you'll feel you can't function without them. You'll never come home to a dirty house either. She most likely will be the type of girl that keeps harmony in the household and is not bitching or complaining about getting a new dress every week. Along with all of these qualities she'll be a wonderful mother.
A woman that is not a natural mother is in my opinion a "HORRIBLE THING". (Instinct attaches the babies to the mother in the wild and it is no different in human terms). The horrible mother would be the type of mother that you see in the wild who deserts her young as soon as possible in desperate times to find greener pastures. This vinegar type sends a shiver down my spine.
Many men are looking for a woman that is close to what their mother was to them. The homebody woman is the closest you will find to fit the description of the motherly type of woman you desire. I think this type of woman does not have many generations left as the most common type of mother and she will be extinct in the coming years. I guess the evolution of change is upon us again. Or will instinct keep this woman going and overcome the "woman’s movement" lead by hardcore lesbos.
IS THE WOMAN YOU DESIRE CAREER HUNGRY?
Is she the type to leave early in the morning for work and return late at night after a hard days work. Career hungry men work long hours and it is no different for women. To imagine what they are like you only need to examine professional athletes. They will not let things get in there way of achieving success and this involves a great deal of single mindedness. To achieve great success special things need to be done and this will have to override you and other family commitments. On the other hand you will have a lot more money than what you would have just by using your own money to support the family.
Chapter 4
WHERE DO I FIND THE WOMAN I DESIRE?
Ahead is a list of places where you'll find many women. You must always be on the hunt for the woman you desire at all times. Of course you don't want a situation where people can't be around you anymore. You could easily turn into some sort of desperate animal searching for your next victim. But I hope by the end of the book you'll be a shade cooler for this to ever happen.
The main thing is to be aware of what is going on around you. There could be the perfect woman for you staring you straight in the face and because you are walking around in a daze you don't realize. You really need to have your feelers out all the time (Pardon the pun). PUT THIS INTO YOUR MIND: I am a salesman looking for my next sale and the best ones wouldn't let one pass by under their nose! I'll notice my opportunities and act on it!
If you sit at home all day and occasionally go to the corner store, you will not find many prospective women. If you put yourself in the following areas we are about to discuss then suddenly there is a whole world of prospects and targets waiting for you to join the competition. I bet you have never won a tennis match if you weren't playing the game!
NOTE: Once you put yourself in the game no matter how bad you are you have to win a point even if its from an opponents double fault. Sooner or later as you become a little more perceptive you may even serve an ace and that is all you need to catch the woman you desire.
WORK
Traveling to and from work.
Do you take public transport to work? How many good prospects would you see each day? That’s right, heaps. This is a good place because no one else is trying to meet anyone so your competition is small.
- The key here is to position yourself near your prospect without it being obvious. Then you just talk to her as though you're a friendly person. Find out where she works and you can follow her up on the phone if you still like her. She doesn't have to give her number to you because you just ring the operator who'll give you all the contact details necessary to reach her.
Restaurant or coffee shop at work.
Even though Seinfeld is a TV show how many women have George and Kramer picked up at their coffee restaurant? You can learn from these unconventional people from there constant awareness for opportunities. Even George who is short, fat and balding gets dates because he's in the game. I have a friend that looks very similar to George and he gets a lot of women. He doesn't focus on his supposed bad attributes rather his good ones. This is his personality. By focusing on his good side it suddenly makes him attractive. Imagine if he went all shy because he isn't physically good looking, and he wants to play the victim. There's no use sitting around wishing you were born with this or that. If you focus on your best points then other people will be drawn towards them like a magnet. Try it and you will be surprised. You'll learn a terrific coffee shop approach later in the Top Ten Icebreakers.
Work functions
Lets say you're at a work function and you like one of the ladies who are working there. It could even be a woman who has been invited to it. You instantly come across as someone with something interesting to talk about, and probably someone a girl might want to know. This is because your attractiveness is greatened through some sort of blown up impression of yourself because you are at a work function. The impression to the woman is that there is something interesting about you and if your smart you can play on this. Most functions involve alcohol and illusions of grandeur can be created if you set the scene right.
Remember she may not have ever been invited to a work function. These little things can really work to your advantage if you stay aware of your surroundings. I've got friends that have girls thinking they are tycoons at these sorts of occasions.
Women basically believe you to a certain point for a couple of reasons.
1- People are basically trusting
2- The woman actually hopes its all true and therefore substantiates your stories in her mind. All women would love to meet and eventually marry some guy that really has it together and is successful.
WARNING--- Be careful with this tactic in case you end up really liking the woman. I used to hang out with a mate who had a great car and the girls we would meet probably thought the same about me. That is until I picked up a couple of them one time in my Kingswood. I just acted as though it didn't worry me (even though it did) and after the initial disappointment or shock it was me they liked. I had already overcome the first opinion stage which is extremely important and this made it okay to drive a Kingswood. I would have got these girls anyway as long as I kept focusing on my good points. I just would have had to use a different game plan.
STORY: A few years ago my friend and I were invited to a large work function. We needed to take dates and we had just the perfect girls lined up. My friend had a girl called Tania and I had a girl called Gaynor. Tania was a reasonably successful model and was a blonde glamour. Gaynor was a pageant winner and she had a face as good as I had seen anywhere. We took them to the function and all of the big wigs thought we were legends with these chicks and we were cashing in on the situation. They really wanted to know my friend and I because of the babes we had and it suited us just fine. We weren't in love with these girls so all of the attention worked out perfectly for us. As the night went on everyone was getting drunker and drunker with all the free drinks that kept coming to our table from the waiters. The girls were drunk and they started getting very friendly with each other. They were on the dance floor in each others arms doing erotic dancing and the guys couldn't believe their eyes. The wives became upset but no one really cared. The show must go on, according to our philosophy that night and it did. My friend’s girl ended up going home because she started to panic about how much my girl was getting into the lesbian thing. That left the 3 of us and we left to go home. On the way home the cab stopped to get some gas and I went and had a chuck in the men’s toilets. I must have had chuck breath even with my attempts to cover it up with peppermint lifesavers. It didn't matter though because Gaynor was really drunk. We both ended up giving it to her that night and my friend fucked her for quite a while after that. Those were the days..........
Business appointments
I used to sell insurance to people and businesses. If I liked any of the girls at the business I was at and I didn't get the deal I would ring up and ask her out. I can't remember if I was ever knocked back this way. You have to be selective as to when you do this as it can cause some trouble with your dealings with that company and therefore could cause trouble at your own workplace. I used to only do it if I missed out on the deal with that business. You make your own judgment with this.
All you need to do is pick up the phone and ask for the girl you want. Explain who you are and then say "You really caught my attention and that’s why I'm talking with you now". Wait for her to reply and then say," I'm the type of guy who can't hold back his emotions and if I didn't ring and talk with you I just wouldn't have been able to sleep tonite". You need to deliver this in a fun sort of way so its not too corny but it is what they all love to hear. If you can have them listening to this and have them wondering if you mean it then you are on a winner and you have delivered it to perfection. Then say" So how about we go out on the weekend and see if we like each other? I'm a pretty good judge of character and I think we'll get along. So how about Friday or Saturday night?"
If you deliver these lines a few times you will adapt to them easily. You wont need a written prompter in front of you once your confidence is flowing and you'll master some typical comebacks to their answers. It may be good idea to have a prompter to start with which will keep you on track if you get stuck for words. I used to use one and it helped me out on some occasions. It’s not a bad idea if you are not a natural conversationalist to have a few topics written down on paper in front of you to keep things going. If you ring a girl you need to keep the topics flowing, which means your getting along well. After a while you will mould your own personality into these lines and it will come across naturally. It is important to stick to the basic message though.
The points to stick to are:
- Compliment her and let her know how she really grabbed your attention. Everyone loves to talk with people who make them feel good. It can also make her feel so special that nothing could stop you from calling her.
If she says to you that you ask girls out all of the time don't get thrown. You say this "Well yes I do go out with a lot of girls because I'm picky". Wait for her to talk. She will most likely say, "How can you be picky if you go out with a lot of girls? It doesn't make sense." This is where you will win her over by saying," When I find the girl who can keep me interested then I will stay with her. I need to go out with different girls to give myself a chance of finding her. Otherwise I would have to just stay at home and I'll never meet my dream girl will I?' By ending this with "will I?" you put her in a position where it is her turn to answer and any reasonable thinking girl will agree with what you are saying.
You have successfully demonstrated a philosophy to her, which gels with your own intentions of taking her out on a date. She has understood what you are talking about and it applies to her as well. She will start to think that you do have to go out with a lot of people to find the one you really want and if she is single she may as well go out with you. Always remember that she wants to find a boyfriend or lover just as you want to find the woman you desire. You have also got her to agree with your philosophies and she will now start to look at you as a smart person. Women want a man to be able to teach her things and to be the decision maker. In the majority of marriages you will find the man is at least 51% in control. Most women want their man to be smart and the one in control so if you win a conversation like this one early on then you will be in a good position to land her if you want to.
-You let her know how your emotions took control of you and that is why you couldn't stand it if you didn't ring her. Women want snags. SENSITIVE NEW AGE GUYS! They don't want wimps but they do want a guy who is sensitive and can talk about his emotions.
- If you say you couldn't sleep if you didn't call her you are adding charm and showing what a fun personality you have. Personality and charm will win a girl over good looks more times than you thought possible so if you haven't got any you better start reading a little closer.
- You actually ask the question about you both going on a date together. You ask her out and you also give an approximate time for when you should go out together. You don't want to give her a yes or no answer question rather you want to give her a question about if the weekend is suitable. This can get you a lot of dates when the girl may not have even planned on saying yes to you. She is not thinking about whether or not she will go out with you now but whether or not the weekend will be all right. Your assertiveness can throw your targets thinking off balance for just enough time to make a date with her. Once you get her to say yes it is very hard for her to turn around and cancel the date.
NOTE: Great companies are built from a business plan. So why would you think the skills of dating would be any different?
FRIENDS
Many relationships friends develop through. It stands to reason because many friends have similar personalities and therefore friends of couples often match well together. Friends in dating situations can be your foe or your enemy. Make sure you work out your friend’s intentions and then you can plan around them.
Have you ever had the jealous type of friend that only preys upon the women you get. A friend of mine who is a huge entrepreneur is like this. He has enough going for him to land women himself yet he continues to try and take the girls that his mates get. He'll tell the woman that his mate is involved with other women or even that they are in a relationship. Now why does he do this? It is a negative way of getting girls and how can someone end up being happy landing a girl in this fashion?
Whenever this guy is successful with his backdoor tactics invariably it ends up the same way all the time. Someone else burns him or the girl just moves on when she gets sick of him. She finds out what sort of a guy he is sooner or later because a guy like this cannot hide in the grass like a snake all of his life. A decent guy does not attempt to take women away from his mates every time they get one. This is the type you don't let your wife spend any time around. Who knows what crap he is spinning to her! This sort of guy should wonder why he does not have any true friends. What you dish out is what you'll get!
On the other hand another friend of mine is always trying to match his mates up with women (maybe hoping he will get them himself?). He paints a great picture about his mate and the woman lets her mind run free with the fantasy he is creating. This way is so easy.
A PLAN OF ATTACK
- You should get together with a couple of mates and set out a schedule. It will state that each of you is responsible for getting a certain amount of dates for the guys in the program each month. Lets say it is only 2 dates per month you need to organize. You will all now have a busy date schedule on top of what you are already doing and this will start an exciting time in your life. This can also give you the skills you need to get your own dating happening. The practice you will be getting will be invaluable because you are learning what works and what doesn't with approaching women.
You will need to approach girls you don't know and talk about your friend. If she says no it wont hurt your ego because she is saying no about your friend.
All you have to say is this: "Hi, my name is Joe and I noticed you about 5 minutes ago. It might seem a little strange me coming and introducing myself like this but don't panic". Have a bit of a laugh here and she probably will to. It'll break up the intensity and things always flow better when you relax the girl.
"I'm actually speaking to you because a friend of mine has just broken up with his girlfriend and he's a bit down. I told him he should do something a little crazy and let me organize a blind date for him. Anyway that’s why I'm talking with you now. He's a great guy and very good-looking. How about you give me your phone number and I'll tell him to call you and if you like each other you can go out"?
Now if she says you should give your friends number to her and she will call him you say, "Yeah that sounds okay but I know he has to go away with work sometime shortly and it might be better if I gave your number to him. Is that okay?" This is about the best line to say here when they pull this line on you. It works because I have said it before successfully. When you say your friend has to go away for work it makes him sound successful and chicks love that. When you end it with," Is that okay"? she will think you are not being too pushy and she will be guided by your assumption that your friend and her will at least speak on the phone. You are creating an impression that it's just a matter of who will call whom.
If they persist with wanting to call your friend instead of him calling her then just give her his number and tell her a couple of good things about your friend. Not too much or it will sound desperate but enough to get her juices flowing.
You must mention how your friend has just broken up with his girlfriend because it demonstrates he must be popular, with some girls at least.
NOTE: Always give the impression you have just broken up with a girl. Women automatically think there must be something wrong with you if you haven't got a girlfriend. So always use this line and you will notice a huge difference. It is important to say how you noticed her about 5 minutes ago because this shows you thought about whether or not you should do this. It shows you don't just do this sort of thing all the time and it was the appearance of this girl that made you act.
It is important to mention that your friend is a great guy and very good-looking. Even if he isn't she will hope it is true. Create a picture in her mind.
REMEMBER Fantasy is what is needed to start the fire, which may burn for a lifetime. Women love fantasy. Just ask yourself why Days of our lives is so popular.
NOTE: You must always try and help your friends with dates. Sometimes it reverses and you will end up with the girl. The more you land for friends the more chance there is of a friend going out of their way to help you.
It's also a grouse buzz to get your mate laid. You sort of feel part of it as though you were getting laid yourself and your mate will be very happy.
Sporting Clubs and Associations
These areas are very good for meeting single women. You find out easily which women are single and you can talk with them easily because you have a similar interest. What could be easier? Its like if your traveling the easiest thing to do is pick up women. There is immediate conversation to talk about and its enough to get to know each other enough to work out; "Am I attracted to this person or not?"
A friend of mine is involved in Small Business Victoria and also the Australian Institute of Management. She meets guys there all the time and this I feel is her real motive for being there. Its not just men doing all the planning. Its just that men often come across as desperate creatures more obviously than what shifty women do.
Now the footy club is maybe not the best place for hunting women but a netball club that has mixed competitions definitely is. Gymnasiums are good to. Women at gyms will talk to any guy that talks to them. Everything is on your side in these places because the woman knows you are in the same club and therefore will not automatically be rude to you. Also it gives them a harmless excuse to talk with you without people thinking any sleaziness is going on. They may be waiting for you to say something.
STORY: I once went out for a drink after I had finished work at a gym in the city of Melbourne. I was a bit pissed and starting to get a bit frisky. There was a girl there who worked out at my gym and she was looking pretty sexy. She had long dark hair and big succulent tits. The rest of her body was good too but somehow the tits just took all of my attention. (Does this sound a familiar type of feeling to anyone out there?) I went over to her and guess what I said? " Hi, fancy seeing you here". If you and the girl have had eye contact then this is all you have to say and it will start a conversation. I spoke with her for a little while and then I left her to do something else. I actually pashed on with some fat thing that night and my mates have never let me live it down since. I must have been blind because according to their stirring this girl even had a moustache. I try not to think about this too much in case I ever have a relapse.
After this unfortunate, but entertaining experience for my mates, I went back after the girl from the gym. It was good timing because I had a couple of waters to get my witts about me and she was at a flirty drunk stage. I zoned in on the opportunity and starting asking leading questions to test the water.
"So why haven't we spoken before?"
She came back with some answer and it just went over my head because I was in operation get laid mode.
All I was thinking was what would my next leading question be to get into her panties and down that tight top she was wearing. At that stage her tits looked even bigger and more inviting than earlier in the night and so I really went for the mark with my next statement. I said, "I've actually thought about asking you out but you seemed really unapproachable".
NOTE This question would give her a chance to let me know if she had any kind of interest in me. I was showing my cards and it was her turn to show hers if she wanted to. It should reveal her level of interest.
I really listened to this answer as it was going to tell me whether or not I would get her tonight or if I would have to work on her some more another time. This is a great line because you will get the idea of how to play your cards with this girl. For best results with this line make sure you think she is in a free enough mood to answer truthfully. She was drunk so the scene was there.
She said, "If only you knew what I'd been thinking about you", she answered with a bit of a smirk on her face. Now if it was early on in the night I would have continued on with the fun and games but it wasn't and she had just given me the opening to close the sale. I said, "Well how about we get out of here and we'll discuss this a bit further". She said, “Where will we go"? I said, “I know a place called Club Shack and you'll just love it. Okay lets go". I grabbed her hand and started leading her out of the place. She stopped me at the top of the stairs and asked about what will happen to her friends. Now this can stuff things right up and has done many times in the past. I was prepared with my usual line though. I said, “Don’t worry about them. We haven't seen them for ages so they’re not exactly worrying about you. At this time of the night it’s every man for himself anyway. Come on lets go". I had to keep the momentum going because you can't afford to break it. Once you do you will find it very hard to get things rolling again. I grabbed her hand again and led her outside and we jumped into a taxi. Luckily the prepared line was in my suitcase of pick-ups ready to use or I may not have got around the friends objection. Now when I got her in the taxi I told the driver my home address as discreetly as possible and then I started to kiss her passionately. I wanted to take her mind off where we were going so the passionate kissing was the best thing to do. I got her back to Club Shack and got her into bed and fucked her. It was all over in my mind once I had her kissing me in the cab and not carrying on about where we were going.
NOTE: Once you have the momentum going and you get her out of the place then you will close the sale every time. You just have to keep leading the way. She later told me that a couple of weeks ago she masturbated over me licking her pussy in the sauna at the gym.
I thought in my mind when she told me this, “Well it's going to stay just that; a dream". I'm no random pussy licker baby!
NOTE: I could have missed out on getting this girl because I had not spoken to her at the gym even though I had wanted to. You could be missing out on girls left right and centre if you don't take the bull by the horns and make something happen.
REMEMBER: Women are feeling just as lonely as you may be and the facade that they don't want to pick up as much as you is bullshit. The difference sometimes is that they want to get married and you may be just looking for a good time. Eventually though most women and men have the same motives.
School
Are you planning on doing any studying or maybe you are now? School is a great place to meet heaps of women once again because you will have something in common to talk with them about. They are always having party nights as well so make sure you get off the couch and go to them.
Bars and Nightclubs
Now you all knew I would have to get to this category. These venues for years were my hunting grounds as they are for the majority of people. Almost all of my mates have met their wives or girlfriends at a bar or nightclub.
Women let their hair down (and sometimes their pants) because they are dancing and drinking and all the other things that go on in clubs. This is the place to find single women more so than anywhere else in the world. Nightclubs are reputable for being pick up joints and I don't think I'm telling you anything new.
Most clubs with age groups above 18 are very popular and have women (beer) on tap. There is the traditional young persons clubs and then the over 30's and sometimes 40's places. Especially at the older places you do not find women going there with their husband or boyfriend because they are there to get laid or to find a long term partner. I've always had the belief that there is no use in going to clubs with your girl. What for? All you do is stand around with drunk guys staring at your girl. If you still want to go to clubs then go with your mates. You can relax and have a good time and YOU can be the mover and groover. Occasionally it can be some fun if you go in a group of couples but apart from that forget it. ADVICE: If you are going to the same place all of the time then it is a good idea to meet up with girls and hang in a group. Have you ever noticed how girls pay you obvious attention when you are with a girl? There strange things aren't they? If girls see you with other girls it makes the world of difference. They all of a sudden want to know you. They become a lot easier to start up a conversation with once they have seen you around girls. It's as though you become a prize to them to see if they can manipulate you into there web. They want to see if they can lure your thoughts into theirs thus winning out over the girl you are with. Girls are very bitchy and competition between them is played with a completely different set of rules to men. They also feel safe giving you "FUCK ME EYES" because they know they can tease you and you probably wont approach them. I think sometimes they are living out a fantasy being as forward as they choose to be with guys who are supposedly taken. They know they are being tarty but the beauty of it is that they know no one will ever find out.
EXAMPLE: I recently was at a mates house when a friend of ours called in on the way to a club. This guy is pretty cool and the chicks go for him. He was picking up glamour on the way and was pretty excited. We asked if he expected to fuck her that night and his reply was, “I don't really care. As long as all of the other girls in the place see me with her. This ought to get me laid by one of them sooner or later". .
ASSUMPTION: My experience and research indicate most guys have trouble in consummating their relationships with girls they have just met. Oh I'm so sorry if I have offended any of you guys who wouldn't sleep with a girl you had just met. But for 99% of the rest of us I will cover one of the many skills that is needed to score on the first night. It could be your missing link and urgent attention is right here.
I spoke earlier under Bars and Nightclubs about being seen with girls to attract other girls. One of the reasons is they can be open with their "FUCK ME EYES" and get away with it. Well put two and two together guys and what you will see will hit you straight in the face and say, “I knew that but I didn't have it in my conscious thoughts so I never took advantage of it".
HERE IT IS-: If girls know in their minds you will not tell anyone about having sex with them that night then you are half way there if you have the girl interested in you. Also you want to overcome the common trait of thought that women believe you will dump them immediately after the deed is done if they are so easily led into the bedroom. The only way my friends and I were able to have orgies with chicks was because we put trust into their minds.
-Here’s what you can say as a story to place calmness and trust into the girls mind. Make sure you carefully ease this into the conversation during the night. Look for the opening to say it. Think of it like a jig saw puzzle except your trying to fill in another gap.
"Yeah trust. It's a funny thing. I actually lost some faith in girls a couple of years ago". Now you need to pause here to get her to ask why. By doing the pause you achieve a couple of things. The first is that you don't blow your cover about your rehearsed story by reeling off a memorized statement. The second is that you may be placing her in the perfect position for your intentions. She will hopefully want to prove you wrong and restore your faith in the trust of women.
"I had a one night stand with a girl and we didn't see each other again for a couple of months". Here you are saying to her that one-night stands are okay. The way you are saying it in open conversation with this girl will downplay the one-night stand black cloud that hovers over it in girl’s minds.
Then say, “I lost her number so I couldn't catch up with her".
You are now telling her that you didn't act like the typical male bastard by not ringing her after getting what all males only want. Your saying you would have, if only you didn't lose her number.
It also says you still want to see a girl after a one night stand and she will think; “If I fuck him tonight he wont just burn me like other guys have done to my friends and also to me. This guy is great. I wont have to play the hard to get routine with him to keep him interested in me. I can fuck him tonight and he'll still ring me".
Then you say “Anyway what happened was that a very close mate of mine one day just came right out and asked me if I'd slept with this girl".
You are now putting in her mind that you don't even discuss women stories with your close mates. She's thinking, "If he doesn't mouth off to his mates he probably doesn't tell anyone what he does".
Then say, “I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I never tell even my best mates what I do and don't do with girls, so she must have been the one to open her mouth".
Your now acting shocked and amazed how the info got out because you don't even tell your best mates. You have made her believe your story about not telling your mates because it is a close mate who is telling you this news and you are just beside yourself as to how he would know what happened. She will be thinking now, "The girl must have been the one to tell his friend because who else would have"?
When you deliver these lines after a while you will even start to believe them yourself. Try to let yourself get involved in the fantasy of your lines to women. When you convey your well timed lines in this manner you will be well on the way to getting the woman or women you desire.
The good thing about clubs is you can go to a place that has your target market in plentiful amounts. Ring up the clubs and ask what type of nights they have and what the crowd is like. If you are into black women then go to reggae nights. If you want Karaoke find out where it is and you can be Elvis for the night. "Viva, las pussy".
REMEMBER: This lifestyle in clubs can have you moving from one woman to another. (sounds harsh hey?) If you don't want that then get in and strike while your iron is hot and then get out with the woman you desire. Don't just hang around clubs and turn into the oldest chorus boy on the block looking for that one more thrill. You have to stop somewhere or the train will keep going and going. There will always be a girl who looks better and has longer legs or whatever. Even Tom Cruise has stopped his chasing (in the public eye anyway) and settled down with the one girl. He can get almost any girl in the world but he was sensible enough to stop with the woman who related with him spiritually. If he can have the strength to do it then you can to.
CHAPTER 5
NOW ITS TIME TO LOAD YOUR BOW AND FIRE YOUR ARROW (asking for the date)
If you don't progress to this stage then you wont go on many dates. To find the woman you desire it will almost certainly come down to a numbers game. Unless of course the first date you go on you strike gold and you live happily ever after. If that’s the case then the only reason for you reading this book is entertainment and then I question," Why are you"?
Now don't start panicking about your marriage quite yet. I understand fully how this subject about women is extremely interesting and well worth reading. I just like to get people thinking. Often the more you confuse girls; the more they want to work you out. So put that in your bag of tricks. It's really a form of SKULL DUGGERY don't you think? But we all love it.
Not many women actually ask men on dates so don't hang around for it. Many of my friends have had vast experience with women and almost always they initiated the first chapter and often the last. You could say they wrote the introduction and the conclusion. My research found there was only a small amount of instances when a woman approached the guy. It would be nice you might say, but then the entire chase has gone and you wouldn't enjoy the game as much (You could handle it now and then though couldn't you?). It's like winning a tennis match 6-0 6-0. Sure it’s good! But what about winning a grueling three setter 7-6 in the third where you had to fight your opponent all the way until you came out the victor? Nothing really beats this feeling and it may be the one that makes you stay with the same girl and possibly get married. A "FREE SPIN" is a great ego boost none the same!
PUSHING IT: My friends and I used to have a lot of orgies and it got to the stage where we would ask the girls some crazy things. It was like we would push the girls to the limit to see what we could get away with next. If your mate was giving it to some orgy chick you might say, "Oh come on. When’s it my turn to have a go"?
Now asking for a date can be very exciting and yes of course nerve racking. No matter how cool you become the process of asking a woman on a date can seem scary. I don't know how many times I have built asking a woman on a date up to be something more than it is. Whether they said no or yes I felt better for facing my fears. With the dating process and also life I urge you to take this saying of mine and live by it. Here it goes....
"FIGHT YOUR FEARS.... SO YOU DON'T FACE REGRET... WHICH CREATES PEACE…”
I remember hearing the martial arts expert Kane from "KUNG FU" say once......".fear is only the work of phantoms in the mind"!
On the other hand you will love dating once you have tasted the rewards, which will come sooner or later.
Now before you dive in headfirst I would like to arm you with what I carried in my quiff.
There is only 3 reasons that will cause a rejection. Believe in it and you will be unbeatable!
1- The girl I was asking out had a boyfriend
2- She already wants a friend of mine. Also another guy may have acted just I did.. The lesson here is the longer you wait to build up the courage to approach a girl the more competition you are setting for yourself. Don't miss the boat!
3- She doesn't have the confidence to say yes. You need to work out if you want to chase this woman or not. Many women really do not feel they are good enough to be asked on a date and therefore automatically say no. She may also have been burnt by some guy recently or in the past and this attributes to her lack of confidence. The problem the woman faces is that the longer she goes on with this and doesn't face her fears then the more like vinegar she becomes.
Also many women for various reasons have this complex that by not going out with anyone it makes them more desirable. I think it just grows cobwebs! Haha....
So guys you really don't know what is going on in their minds. If they say no then the logical way is to remember these three points. It stops you losing confidence.
NOTE: You must remember that your state of mind is determined by the information you feed it with.
REASONS WOMEN SAY YES TO YOUR INVITATION
- Most women have the instinct to have babies. They also have sexual urges. Along with this they have a thirst for romance. Many women are attracted to having a man for security reasons. This is for security with financial situations and physical safety reasons and emotional reasons. Often the single woman is very lonely. Not many guys ask particular women on dates and when they are asked they will take advantage of it even if you are not her automatic knight in shining armor. You have to understand that even though many women receive attention constantly, they do not actually get asked out on dates. This can be for many reasons and the initial one to come to mind is that all of the guys thought she would say no. They may think she is to good for them and she may not come across as the approachable type.
QUESTION. Have you ever met someone and they ended up being a lot nicer than what your impression of them was? People carry around themselves an aura of leave me alone or I'll bite your head off type off barrier. You only have to break this shield and you are half way there to getting the woman you desire. Within seconds of asking a woman on a date she can actually change her opinion of you. This is luckily favoring you. They suddenly think of you as a possible mate whereas before you were just another guy to them. The planting of the interest from you into the woman’s brain is an extremely important move in catching the women you want. She is now thinking about you in this way.
QUESTION: Have you ever had a woman show interest in you and then suddenly you like her more than you did before? Well now you are adding up the minuses and plusses to getting further involved with this woman. You must put yourself into their thoughts to give yourself a chance!
Many girls want to have dates organized so your approach is welcomed and sometimes even wished for. Maybe all of her friends are in relationships and she doesn't have a lot of choices with whom to go out with.
Women also take a certain amount of pride in having a reasonable amount of men interested in them. They tell their friends just like guys do.
A friend of mine told me recently an interesting story I feel I should share with you. She was in a nightclub and she took off her shirt and only had a cut off singlet top on. She is tanned and sexy and men are attracted to her. When she took off the top she was given some wolf whistling from a group of guys. She described their appearance as rough. She then said, "They may not have been hunks but it sure got me excited when they showed attention to me". The key here for men to realize is that attention dealt out in the right moderation will bring results because women love it.
Have you ever thought the woman you are thinking about asking on a date really wants you badly? She only needs to be slightly attracted to you and you will get her on a date by asking with confidence and not taking no for an answer. This is even if she plays hard to get .She may even mean no to start with and some gentle persuasion will talk her into it. It’s like a salesman trying to make a sale. He hardly ever gets people demanding to buy his product so he has to answer customer queries and objections. He also has to chase his prospects to get an interview with them to sell his product. This salesman becomes quite skillful after time and practice and he reaps the rewards.
REMEMBER: The simple facts are is that women are a numbers game! By grooming yourself to be your best you will increase your closing ratio.
- Its romantic for a woman being asked on a date. They love romance!
- Women want a mate and you may be the one they are after. Most women will try different models before they settle down to have babies and you should be in the showroom at least offering a test drive.
All girls dream of their wedding day and the last thing they want is to be left on the shelf. They are searching as hard as you are guys! They’re just a lot sneakier in the way they go about things.
Women want someone to kiss and to hold. Someone to have coffee with and to go to the pictures or to see a show with. They feel horrible if they don't have anyone. Many women think, "If only a decent guy would come along. That’s all I ask for". Some even cry themselves to sleep wishing to meet this guy and to at least have the opportunity to sort through their dates to find one. They know that without dating this can't happen.
Also, there is something very exciting about going out with a stranger that you just met. It's an air of "anything could happen" that strongly helps to alter a girls mood and make her susceptible to doing things she normally wouldn't.
They want a guy to replace their father. Think of it guys; many men want the woman they catch to somehow replace that motherly love you left behind when you moved away from home. Women want someone to share their emotions with in confidence. Many women don't trust their friends probably because they are just as cunning as themselves. So they look to the arms of a man for this.
REMEMBER: The main reason women want to date is to find their life long partner who will support her through her reproduction years. Hopefully it continues for life of course. We are put on this earth to reproduce. If we don't then mankind will become extinct. This won’t happen of course because instinct joins man and woman together everyday and everywhere. Don't make your situation seem to big and scary because all over the world it has been done millions of times and nature will continue to take its course. You just have to decide to be part of it.
Put all this together and mix it with some careful planning and you will catch the woman you desire.
- Here are some categories you can place your target into and work on them with each sections plan of attack.
HURT
Women along with men become very lonely when they haven't got a partner. Some say how much they enjoy being alone and that in some cases is true. You mainly find this among women that have been hurt from a previous relationship and it has kept them alone for a long time. One of the main reasons they are alone is that no guy is working on them. Whether it be through work or from a nightclub if you are in the chase you have a very good chance of landing the woman you want. All of the guys that I interviewed had one of two things in common.
1 - It was the guys in the game that were moving ahead, thus achieving what they desire.
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2 - The ones sitting around playing with themselves all day weren't getting anywhere. REMEMBER: Not many girls approach guys even if they are the best looking or richest. The guys that are going to pick up a lot (thus increasing their chances of finding the woman they want), are the ones that are positive and are prepared to face their fears and go for what they want.
This hurt type is often best chased through a combination of things. This woman will not frequent clubs and will resign herself to, "I want a man sure; but he has to be the right one". There thoughts are tarnished and they carry emotional baggage. This sort of thinking is hard to overcome and you must really want to catch this woman because you are in for a long haul. Because they have somewhat been out of the game for a while they have lost confidence in their attractiveness and overall desirability to men.
You wont know what their situation is when you first meet this type until you ask them if they have a boyfriend and if so how long ago did they break up. Ask who broke it up? This can give you the ammunition you need to know for how to handle her if you want her. If it was he then you can ask if she has got over it?
Be alert here because her body language will let you know the real truth. She might say " Yes, I'm not interested in him one bit and if you ask me men are all pigs". If she is scorn like this you really are in for the marathon. However, she may be looking for the next man to replace the other guy.
REMEMBER: Women want security. They often say things that have no real meaning, so don't read into it too much if it is against your goals. I've had women tell me they have a boyfriend and they have no interest in other men. Then at the end of the night I ended up landing this woman.
IMPORTANT---You must only take these girls from strangers and never your friends. You need to realize there is only a few women in this world that are off limits to you. These are your mates girls and there is no excuse for crossing the border.
I've got a mate that owns a nightclub and he once met a girl from the crowd who was there with her boyfriend. He took the girl upstairs and fucked her while her boyfriend was downstairs. I know this guy very well and to top it off she was hot.(He reckons he loved it) Women do some strange things and you need to be in and around them to experience the things they do.
I also think that you really shouldn't take another mans woman even if you don't know him. Men need to stick together and not let women play they’re little games with us. We must "UNITE" and always help our mates get the women they desire. It will come back to you ten fold.
The hurt woman is tricky to handle but easily overcome with the usual general tactics. The standard problem you face with her is the emotional baggage she carries. The main thing to remember is to show your interest in her and capitalize on the very first chance you get to ask her out.
WARNING: Once you have let her know you want her through your devious methods, do not take too long to approach her with your invitation to go out some time. This is critical!
Use eye contact to make your intentions clear.
The longer you take, the harder it gets to make the move on her. You suddenly have thought too much about what to say and when it comes time to ask her you come across as someone with no confidence. If you come across as confident she'll asks herself, " Why are you so confident? I'd like to get to know this guy".
(The following can almost be used for any answer she gives you except if she has 14 kids and is happily married).
You should say," I think your a great girl and I think we would get along really well. Now if I didn't come and talk with you which may seem a bit cocky, we would never get to know each other, so the best thing for me to do was to come and ask you out . You can't knock that now can you?"
Wait for her reply which will almost definitely be in agreement with you and then say, “How about not organizing anything now, but give me your phone number and it will give you some time to think about it and me some time to plan something".
Now don't stand around waiting for her to give you some long-winded answer as to why or why not she will do this.
You need to keep your presentation going by assuming she will give her number to you.
You must ask for her number there and then as though you expect to get it from her. Even if you don't have a pen and paper ask for her number and then remember it. Ask her if it is in the phone book in case you forget it and then ask what it would be under.
NOTE: You have already explained why she should give her number to you and also given her the option in her mind that even if you ring she can still say no to you. Now that you have done this you need to focus on the phone number and it will take her mind away from a yes or no answer in regards to a date.
Believe me; I have never gotten a girls phone number and not been able to land a date with her. Whether she realizes it or not she really has just said to you she will go out with you. She may not even realize this to start with. You have given her the option that even when you ring she can say no. They never do though guys.
REMEMBER: People basically do not want to disappoint someone who is being nice to them They especially don't want to do it to their face. If you understand this you will realize the importance of giving them the option that even though they are giving you their number they can still get out of it. Women feel that over the phone is the easier way than face to face to say no to your invitation. This is so easy but brilliant even if I say so myself.
NOTE: By adding the last part, “give you some time to think about it and me some time to plan something" you create an air of excitement and anticipation within this girls mind. She sub or consciously thinks, “I wonder what he means? Would we go on to a nice restaurant? This could be fun".
You must say this last bit with some personality and with maybe a cheeky grin. By saying it this way turns a possibly nervous encounter for both of you into a feeling of fun. It breaks the intensity and you will notice a change in her body language. Usually it will bring a smile onto their face. PERSONAL STORY: A few years ago I was at Doncaster shopping Center in Melbourne Australia. I was with a friend of mine who was also into meeting women and finding a girlfriend. We were just walking along and then we saw one of the sexiest and most beautiful women ever in real life. I was only about 20 at the time and we could not stop watching her. She had long dark hair with some sort of wave in it that swayed as she walked lightly back and forth across her beautiful back. She had one of those faces that I explain as an American look. I think the girls in Australia are different to American girls. They are a lot more womanly looking the girls from the States and Australian girls are more girly looking. She had sultry green eyes and a nice glow to her face. She was wearing a miniskirt that fitted rather tightly around her firm ass and it was pretty short. She had an ass that would remind anyone of a peach. It was extremely shapely and as firm as you would want. She had legs that had a nice tan with a touch of muscle on them showing us she must train to be in this kind of shape. She was wearing a loose white shirt tied up around her waist and just under her breasts. This drove me a little crazy and you could see her tight stomach and small waistline. Her breasts were large and very firm as they poked through the outline of her shirt. To top everything off she had full lips that looked as though they were made for kissing or something like that. The high heels she was wearing made her ass and breasts stick out and she was about 5ft 7 inches I would say without heels on. She was very classy looking whilst also having a look of a tiger. I just had to get her!
My friend said he was going to talk with her but I wanted to as well.
We debated it back and forth and finally because I was not seeing anyone at the time I won the right to approach her. I wasn't nervous because I knew I just had to go for it and I would really spew if I didn't at least give it a shot.
So I went into the shop she was in and said hi to her. She gave some interest but not much. You have to understand that attention for these hot women is not new and luckily I did. She walked out of the shop and towards the door to the car park. My friend started paying out on me for not carrying through with my intentions. I said to him in a desperate plea to regain my pride with him, “Don’t worry, she's playing right into my hands". YEAH SURE I thought to myself after saying this.
Anyway I followed her outside and yelled out her. She didn't turn around the first time and that is really embarrassing when there are other people around because I had to yell out again to get her attention. The conversation went almost exactly like this. I can remember it because it is one of my favorite stories.
"Hi." I said. She didn't really reply. "After watching you in the shopping center I have to tell you that you are one of the most beautiful girls I have ever seen". This brought a smile to her face. If a girl said that to me I would smile also.
She said then, “Well thank you very much but" I interrupted here and said, “The reason I have come to talk with you is I would like to get your number and take you out sometime." She replied (her name is Nicki) "Thanks for the offer but I have recently broken up with my husband and I'm not ready for any type of relationship".
Just as well I had my thinking cap on at such an early age because if I had pressed the issue much further I would not have gotten anywhere. I could tell that by the way she said it she was a woman with confidence and if she didn't have this pre recorded in her mind she would have said yes to my offer if she liked me. My immediate goal was to then talk a little with her and find out where she worked.
I didn't ask her for her number again and just left her with saying how nice it was to meet her. She said it was nice to meet me and thanks for the compliment.
NOTE: I left her thinking what a nice guy I was and that I didn't really push the issue with her after she had just told me she really wasn't interested in starting anything new. I found out a month later that when she had told some of her friends about me approaching her they said to her, "Oh Nikki; you need to get out now and move on with your future". This I found out was really helpful to my cause.
REMEMBER: When approaching a woman you have never met you must not be too overwhelming because it can get their back up. You must be persistent however and the best thing you can do if you really want her is this. Ask her a couple of times about dating you and if this doesn't work change the subject to idle chitchat.
In this chitchat you have 2 goals. The first is to make an impression on her what a good guy you are. Women love a guy that can hold some sort of conversation. For some reason women think they are more intelligent than the majority of men. Once you realize this, you need to throw this thought of theirs out the window and show that you are different.
The second goal and most important is to find out where she works. Peoples favorite subjects are themselves and you can run a conversation purely on questions about her. She will almost always answer at least a few of them. Now 2 of these questions needs to be where she works and what is her name. You can say "Oh by the way my name is Johnny". If she doesn't automatically tell you hers you should ask for it almost immediately after you have given yours. Now instead of asking a bold question like where do you work you say(The reason this is bold is because you are strangers and sometimes a girl will get defensive if you ask too many direct questions), "So what industry are you in? " Wait till she answers then say," Do you like it"? Now she may even tell you at this point where or who her employer is but if she doesn't you say, "Oh where do you work from ? I know someone that does that and they really love it". Here you are creating an impression to the woman that you have something in common with her and she will loosen up and think you are a nice guy. You have also made her feel good that her profession is one that you respect.
Now you have her name and where she works you should be the one that makes the move to leave. This is a good psychological move on your part. It is somewhat important to get in first here to eliminate the feeling that you may be pestering her(She's lucky you are but they are strange things women). It’s not vital but a good advantage to have made the move first to leave.
REMEMBER: Many steps make up a ladder and if you don't take most of them then you will not get to your destination.
Back to the story...
I left her and a couple of days later I phoned the operator for the phone number of the shop she worked at. I rang up and said," Hi, may I speak with Nicki please"? She replied in an inquisitive tone” You’re speaking to her". I said, " It's Johnny from the other day". Nicki said, “And just what other day is this".
NOTE: They like to play dumb to who it is to down play how much memory they have of you. They’re very good with their dominating tactics so be on your guard and don't let it throw you. The moment you do is probably the time you lose her. I said," I'm the guy who came up to you and asked for your phone number at the shopping center." "Oh really", she answered in an interested but surprised tone of voice." And how did you find me here"? "Remember how you told me who you work for, well I rang the operator to get your number hoping I would find you there. You didn't think I would let you get away that easy do you"? She went silent. I said “Well now that I have gone to this much trouble the least you could do is accept an invitation to go out with me next week". This time I went silent to make her talk and she answered, “It would have to be something pretty good to live up to your confidence". I replied, “I’ve been on dates before to the nicest restaurants and then the theatre and some of them have been great. But I've also been on a couple of dates where all we did was go and have coffee and this worked out great. So it just depends on whether or not we need scenery to make our time together fun and I'm betting we don't. Just leave it to me and I'll think of something".
NOTE: I mentioned I'd had good dates before at great restaurants and good dates at coffee shops. I try not to let negative things come into the situation like talking about disaster dates. No one wants one of these so there is not much point in bringing them up unless it is for humor. Also it is good to mention that this is not the first time you have been through this process by mentioning other dates.
WARNING: Tread a careful line with my last statement. The reason for letting the girl know that you have dated before is to create the image that you are a desirable man. It can also put the girl at ease thinking that this idea of going on a date with you is not really a big deal and I may as well. If done correctly through practice you will sooner then later be able to pull this line off very successfully. The time you haven't pulled off this line is when you lead the girl to believe that she is not really that important to you and you are just a guy that goes from girl to girl.
Back to the story... Nicki replied with a little hesitation this time and said, “Look; I think your a really nice and.... I'm not ready to go out with anyone yet". Now at this point I went silent. The reason for silence here is that it can turn the situation around for you by them feeling a bit guilty after the effort you have made. Someone had to talk and by me staying silent meant she had to talk.
I was thinking, "Please turn around and say okay". In fact I almost expected her to after this much work but she didn't and we hung up following some idle chitchat. I couldn't believe I had gone so far with her and so expertly delivered my lines that she still said no.
BUT WE ALL KNOW THAT YES MEANS YES AND NO MEANS MAYBE, DON'T WE?
I still thought I was in the game because she said, "It would have to be pretty good to live up to your confidence". I left it for a couple of days and I thought to myself, "I'm not letting a woman that I really am trying to get turn me down. It would go against all of my beliefs that you can get the woman you desire if you plan your attacks and play with confidence". For the next couple of days I wondered how I was going to turn this around for the positive. I said to myself, “I’ll give it one more go and if this doesn't work then I'll go home knowing that I FACED MY FEARS, AND ELIMINATED REGRET WHILST CREATING PEACE WITHIN IN ME. If you give something your best-calculated shot then any result is positive.
About a week after the phone call to Nicki I had worked out a plan. I would go into her shop dressed in a suit and have a plan to ask her out again. This time however I was not going to let her do much of the talking. The day came for me to do it and I was a little nervous as you may imagine. Something I learned was that if you really want something and it is not easy to get then only the most persistent will win through. After all, who really would still be trying at this stage? I had to live to my philosophies and I also was really attracted to this gorgeous woman.
I went in to her shop and said, "OH, hi Nicki. Fancy seeing you here." She laughed as if to say; do you ever give up.
I didn't let her laughter throw me and I continued with the game plan of doing most of the talking. "I know this is being pretty persistent but I told you what I thought about your looks the first day I met you and that hasn't changed. What has happened is that I like your personality now and I think you like mine. I even think you may be attracted to me because you haven't brushed me off straight away each time I have talked to you and we've gotten along pretty well. So I'll just ask you out once more and then I will either see you again or its been something that we can just put down as one of life’s experiences. Will you go out with me"? She started smiling and I sort of did even though I had really laid my cards out to this girl to either throw away or to hopefully at least play a hand.
"All right; any guy that tries to get me this hard I'd have to say yes to". I asked her if she would like to do something after work tomorrow night and she told me what time to pick her up and I did. I stayed with her for a couple of months and then it just fizzled out. She was definitely all body, and she goes in my diaries as an all timer.
YOUNG WOMEN 18-23
This is an age group that is very exciting. They are now experiencing life as adults and many of these girls just love it. They are out 3 or 4 nights a week and they are either working or going to University. I guess the nickname of "Party girl" comes from the things girls in this age group get up to.
You need to understand what sort of a relationship you are after when approaching these girls. This age group is influenced heavily from their peers. If you can see what their peers are like then you have some sort of a guide to their thinking.
If the friends are all party goers and are out all night every week, then most likely this girl will be your best choice for casual sex. Just realize that she will be around alcohol and single guys a few nights a week. It's best to treat her as one of your stable girls. If it gets more serious, then you can decide which way you wish to go. Don't try and manipulate her too much into your rules of "do's and don’ts"! You'll suppress her personality and she may even end up pissing you off. Let fate lead this romance more so than careful planning.
If their friends are all in heavy relationships with guys, you can bet that the one without a boyfriend dreams of not being alone. She may go out with you even if you are not her ideal man. She just wants to be like her friends and most probably wants the company. Many girls at this age burn their friends and it sometimes leaves them with no friends to go out with. Mmmmm... Poor little babies, I guess they can come over to my place if they get lonely. They better bring over a (blank) video. So I can show my mates what happened the next day of course!
Now if you are at a pub and you see a girl you like then you need to follow some basic guidelines to increase your chances of scoring her.
Don't spend all night staring at her. This will make her feel uncomfortable after a while and it makes you look uncool. Sometimes after staring all night you'll finally make a move on her. The problem with this is that you may be a little uncomfortable with each other by now. You have already had some sort of connection with each other earlier and it didn't come about straight away. You make the situation too serious by working your approaches this way. These girls are out for fun and most of what happens for them in a night of partying is spontaneous and not pre- meditated. When you understand this you will succeed with these girls night after night. A large percentage of my nightclub sex happened within 2 minutes to half an hour of meeting the girl. Don't let them think too much once you feel you have them ready. Most of the naughty stuff girls get up to is done on the spur of the moment and lagging time just fucks up your presentation. It all gets down to what you are after. You need to know the type of battle you are engaging. Once you decide this you can prepare your armor and tactics to suit your goals.
Don't approach the girl you are after when she is in a group of her friends. Girls are funny sometimes when there around their friends and a little too unpredictable. They are suddenly not interested in talking to guys, and they will burn you to show how good they are to their friends. They might even like you but the friend’s thing is too hard to compete with. Or you get some girl that suddenly wants to be a smart ass to impress her friends.
She may also worry her friends will think she is slutty by going along with your moves.
Girls are very protective of their reputations and will lie and steal to paint the picture they want people to see.
You need to watch the movements of this girl discreetly and wait until the time is right to approach her. This is usually when she is alone or in a crowded situation where the friends can't hear what you are both saying. Sometimes it helps if you are in a dark area as well to take away possible shyness (hey, you may need the nightclub lighting to help your own chances. It's not a fair game otherwise because she is being aided by your beer goggles!).
The whole idea is to create a scene where it is not so obvious you are trying to get her. Make it as casual as possible when you approach the 18-23 girls. Crowded areas are terrific for making the casual approach work. You can position you and your friends in an area around where the girl you like is. This way you can just 'BUMP INTO HER"and say, “How are you? Isn't this place cool"!
Wait for a reply then say, "I haven't been here for a while and I don't remember it being busy like this. Is it always like this"?
Now at this stage you will have a response reading enough to know if you like her and if she likes you. If you can tell she is interested then just keep going with your own personality. Try to get her off on her own in another part of the venue. The reasoning behind this is to give you a chance of kissing her. If you can get her away from her friends then make the assumption she wants to kiss you. Don't hang around with her too long before you do this because she is not interested in talking all night about you and your family and your interests. She wants action and the guys that are forward enough will get it from her. Also by kissing her you get some sort of commitment from her. She may even attach herself to you.
REMEMBER: The addition of sexual activity changes the ball game and usually puts the guy into the drivers seat. Most girls conjure up what they think are shared emotions between you. The person in the drivers seat is the one who doesn't really care but is happy to keep steering the relationship along their own yellow brick road.
Now if you still like this girl and she is only talking with you lightly and with not much interest, don't despair. Don't try and force the conversation when you feel you are at this point. She may have just got to the place and needs to settle in before any frivolity. She may have just had an argument with friend? There can be a number of reasons for her being a bit standoffish.
Now if you’re in a place that suits your style and hers, then there is every reason you can still catch her. You tell her it was nice to meet her, but you need to go and see some girls who you know from school/work because you owe them a drink. If she asks what for you can say, "It's a long story, but it was just another example of girls taking advantage of me again. I'll tell you about it later if I see you". Say it sarcastically with a little smile or laugh and leave them with the thought of you being challenging to talk to. They may even try to continue the conversation with you after you have shown some spunk about you. It probably still pays to move on for the moment even if you did put a little sparkle in her eyes. It can be risky but at least you are moving the show to your playing field by dictating the terms.
NOTE: Even if she wasn't interested in you, you now have turned the tables into your favor. She knows you are talking with other girls, which shows you may be popular. You have left a reason to come back. Now when you do come back to her later there is no reason to bring this up. It’s an old story by this stage and if she asks about it just have some story ready to tell her. By leaving her at this stage you should go off and enjoy yourself. If she is looking over then make sure it looks as though you are having a great time and what a great time every else has around you.
NOTE: Don't start acting like BOZO the clown. I mean that you should just act as though you are enjoying yourself.
Have you ever really been super attracted to a girl that just stands around all night and is just bored with everything? Or would the girl next to her who is laughing and having fun be more attractive?
If you don't act as though you are having a great time then why would a girl want to talk with someone who is boring and looks hard to approach? You need to create a sort of aura around yourself that will reel in interest. Even if it means the girls are just noticing you, it is better than them not at all. Controlled laughter and a smile on your face attracts women!
3- When approaching the girl do not let every one in the place know what you are doing. E.g. walking across an empty room that is lined with people around the edges and saying something to a girl you don't know and everyone can see or hear what you are doing. You will not get a very positive result like this usually and other girls see you do it. You will look uncool and even desperate. Now I know all single guys are desperate along with single women but you need to control yourself to not let the girls actually know this. After all; who wants a guy that someone else turned down and probably any girl can get anyway!
4- Make your approaches seem somewhat spontaneous as though you haven't been planning it. When done this way you can catch a girl’s attention easier because there is no pressure. They think you are just a nice guy and there is nothing harmful in talking. Its how you turn this into sexual contact that makes the difference.
I have a friend that uses this method very well and he aims to get girls phone numbers to have lunch with them. It's a great method and one that everyone should be using. It gives you a chance to have sex with their mind as well as their body and this can be awesome.
The thing he does ethically wrong is that he plays interested in the girl too much and they fall in love with him. When he really only wants to take them to bed. He plays with their emotions too much and it is not fair to the girl. This method is not only too sneaky but very few can pull it off. This is because you need to transfer a friendship into a sexual relationship. My advice is to not work this way unless you are naturally like this. I mean a naturally friendly guy who really wants to be friends with the girl first. I have never told a girl I love her to get her to go to bed with me and I don't agree with anyone that does. - KARMA will emerge in your life if you play this game.
5- Make your intentions clear once you have her talking easily with you. Take her out onto the dance floor and get some touching going. As soon as you both decide to go and dance you should automatically take her hand and lead her out to the floor. Its a basic move that is overlooked by most men. You get away with it because you are doing it like a friend. What it does though is break the barrier of starting sexual contact and the first move is always the hardest. This is also the easiest place to start kissing her on the dance floor. As long as it is busy and somewhat dark. NOTE: Don't kiss for very long if you wish to stay cool. The dance floor is for initiating, not consummating!
When you talk to her in a loud place you need to talk into her ear for her to hear you. Slightly put your hand on the small of her back a couple of times to start the body contact and to test the water. If things are okay then you should move your arm and hand right around her waist when you next say something. Each time you get a bit cheekier only do it for a quick amount of time. This means you will get away with it before she complains and then she will become used to it after you do it a couple of times.
It's just like training your dog to sit. A little at a time adds up to you getting what you want. Don't over do it and this will work many times for you. It’s like playing tennis. You start with the forehand and you practice it a few times before you feel the time is right to go onto the backhand. If you play this part right and fine-tune your game you will be serving aces in no time.
STORY: A friend of mine has a particular technique that has had me in stitches laughing on many occasions It's called the "SPIDER GRIP" Every girl he met or was just saying hello to would reap the rewards of the "SPIDER GRIP". It sounds like something out of the X FILES although it has a TRIPLE X feel about it.
Every time he would greet a girl he would pull them in and hug them. Now this in itself is a fantastic move. They get to feel your body and strength as a man and who doesn't like a hug. On top of this move he would put his arm around them whilst placing his hand on their ass. At the same time he would curl his hand under the crack of their ass and give it a squeeze. Usually his middle finger was in the middle of their ass. Now this guy is 6 ft 3 inches tall so his reach could sometimes really delve into deeper spots than you could imagine.
Occasionally a girl would say something but it truly was never in a negative way. You must understand that all of these moves come down to the delivery. He would do it so quickly that it was almost the confusion of the whole thing that stopped them from complaining. Another crucial point was that he would not stay there hanging onto her ass. It was a quick but deliberate move, and the girls genuinely loved the "SPIDER GRIP". It immediately created sexual contact, and the hug was warming and sensitive to the girl. He successfully combined warmth with outright sleaziness. What a killer duo! It could well be the perfect match!
Now many of you may be asking how successful this guy was with women? Well to this day he is not married, however his scoreboard is in legendary status. He started working as a bouncer when he was 17 and has always been involved in the entertainment industry and to this day he has had sex with over 1000 women.
His business partner followed a similar routine although it didn't involve the "SPIDER GRIP". Every girl he knew would get a hug and a bit of a squeeze. This guy is also in the 1000 club.
REMEMBER: The 2 examples of the guys that are in the 1000 club have one thing in common. They start the sexual contact happening as soon as they start talking with the girls. It just made everything seem so natural and this is why the girls would end up sleeping with them. You need to be the pace setter with women and if done correctly with some well planned moves then you will have many successes or just a success with the woman you desire.
If you are in a large group of guys and you wish to meet some girls at the place you are at then you must follow some guidelines. When you get a girl do not bring her over to the vultures because you are just asking for disaster. They will either %#@&k you up or one of them may even take her away from you. I've seen this done so many times that it became standard to stay away from a group of mates unless you just want a boys night out.
You need to separate from the group and go hunting in smaller packs. A large group is too intimidating for the better looking girls and they wont put up with all the shit that accompanies one.
When guys are in a large group, and they reach out for a girl to talk with, you must realize they don't have much chance at all. The girl knows all of the mates are watching and they don't want to seem slutty by accepting your advances. They feel possible ridicule from the group and why wouldn't they?
STORY: There are of course exceptions to the rules every time and I have a beauty to tell you. This story became known as JOHNNY the ROOTER. A group of my mates and I were in Albury, a country town in Victoria Australia who was holding their tennis championships. It was Saturday night and we decided to go out for a few drinks (Well actually, I think the aim was to get parro).
- We were watching a band and for some reason we ended up on the stage in a "brown eye competition". We were all pulling our pants down and a couple of the guys were turning right around doing "the full Monty". I heard later, that one of the guys was bending over that far chucking a brown eye, which he resembled a male bull terrier on heat for all to witness in the bar.
Anyway, the competition had finished and we certainly had the attention of the whole crowd. A group of girls were sitting next to us, and when we took our seats again we started talking with them. They joined in with our table and it was looking good for about 4 out of the 7 guys that were in our group. I don't really like these odds when all of the guys are my good mates. There was nothing I could really do that I wasn't to spice up more group activity. I didn't want any of the girls falling in love with one guy, because often it is at the expense of a possible huge orgy. I know it seems as though I was getting a little too crazy here, but when your on a roll with chicks you may as well go for the craziest sex. Orgy stories don't just happen out of the blue, and I read these country chicks as a chance.
The bar closed and we invited the girls back to our motel. A couple of them said yes and we dropped home the other 3. We traveled in two cars back to the motel.
For some reason it ended up being only one girl left out of the starting line up of 5. We were all a bit spewing because a guy called Maz had been talking with her all night and he was obviously going to get some action. He was pretty inexperienced with cupboard jobs and he was the sort of guy who wants to cuddle up to a girl even if they just met that night.
We turned on the spa and all jumped into it. A couple of the guys went nude and this made it a bit of a classic. Then it was the girl’s turn to jump in and she said, "Ah what the hell" and took off all of her clothes and slithered in. Now you could imagine all of our excitement then. It went from just Maz being the lucky one to all of us.
Every one was mauling her in the spa in some sneaky way. I think there was a lot of foot play under the bubbles and she really didn't mind. The only one who seemed to mind was Maz. He was saying, "Oh come on guys". He continued to play nice guy with her while we just all acted ourselves. You'll read later what happens to Nice Guys!
Anyway; we went inside and a group vote declared we should have a shower. We positioned her in the middle of us and we surrounded her in what was named "A Cage of Fats". Every one was trying to get something off her until she said," Okay guys! I'll let you all watch me root someone, as long as that is all you do. Now just leave me here for a moment and then I'll come out and say who I want it to be".
We went left the bathroom as requested. She had told us there was going to be triple x viewing for all, and we had no intentions of fucking the flow up. Once in the room we immediately started revving up Maz.
"It's time to prove yourself Maz. Don't let us down. All you have to do is think of yourself as Randy West (veteran porno star) for the night". We cracked some funny comments and it was a huge laugh. However the message was loud and clear. Don't pull out on us now Maz! It seemed obvious she would pick Maz after he had romanced her all night. He was really getting nervous and you could see the anxiety the peer group pressure was causing. I wasn't sure which way he was headed and I don't think he did either.
A couple of minutes later she came back into the room and we all looked over towards Maz. The group stare could have shaken any budding porno star.
For a couple of moments she didn't say anything so I looked back at her. She was looking straight at me, and immediately without hesitation I said, " Well lets get this show on the road"! and proceeded to lead her to the bed where I put on a live porno exhibition for my mates.
That night added to the popularity of the Albury tennis championships over the next few years. If only a plaque could have been placed in the clubrooms. Oh well, it was a fantastic night and one that has been spoken about over and around many drinking sessions.
WOMEN 23-30
This group is somewhat unpredictable. They may have just been involved in a long-term relationship and things went sour.
They may be just starting to come out of their shell and the partying has just begun. A lot of girls who get married early envy what their friends have experienced. This means that when they break from a relationship they are ready to spread their wings (legs).
They may be ready to start a relationship, which is the most common for this age group.
They've usually had their fun and natural instinct of reproduction is growing in their minds. They may not be fully ready to settle down, however they realize it is time to start thinking about a mate. The scariest thing for most women is being left on the shelf! I believe some just grab the first available guy that wants them and settle down. Others just wander from night club to nightclub hoping to find the perfect partner. Girls in this age group really understand the urgency they face. They realize they haven't got many spare years up their sleeve to take advantage of their still youthful appearance.
It is the ideal mating time for them as it is for men. Most marriages come from these ages. NOTE: Decisions made in this age group can mould your life. Try and draw knowledge from older people and then way up your options.
I was speaking with a friend who is 33 on the way to a golf game and he was complaining about a drought he was in. This guy is in the 200 club so he is no rookie and it was becoming frustrating to him why he didn't have a girlfriend. He was also not getting laid as frequently just to top off his anguish. After some questions, I explained to him that now he was dealing with girls in the 23-30 age group and his tactics had to change. Instead of playing tennis at Wimbledon on the slick wham bam thank you mam grass (18-23 age group), he was now at the French Open on the much slower clay court surface where you really have to work to get your points. Sure you get some easy ones now and then but generally each score has got to come from planning and some hard work. These girls are not different to when they were younger except their priorities have changed and they have become a lot more worldly. No longer can they be manipulated as easily as when they were somewhat naive. They are now thinking about a life long mate or at least developing a more serious relationship than a 1-night stand. There firm belief is that if they get to heavy sexually with you, too early in the relationship, then you will just move on like all of the other guys have.
Now don't despair guys if you are looking for girls in this category. The difference is that you will at least have to put in an extra nights groundwork to sleep with her if you want to.
NOTE: They are still happy to sleep with you rather easily, however you must show a degree of interest after the first night of meeting one another. They can still handle the drunk and sleazy routine, although it won’t get you laid as much as it did in the past. What you need to do is to gather phone numbers off these girls and take them out on a date. If you play well this night, you will get them into bed. All they wanted was that extra step.
Now if you are looking for a serious relationship then I believe the longer you leave the actual heavy sex commitment the better.
NOTE: This is different for everyone. I believe it gives you a chance to get to know the woman before you actually sleep with her.
You can do other things along the way without going all the way. Many women will fall for you even more if you don't press this issue. These days you will find them coming to you for the full treatment, even if you don't initiate it! If you are fairdinkum about this girl then there is no hurry. It keeps anticipation and fantasy bubbling at boiling point.
If you have slept with a large number of women then the holding off game played by them is exciting. This is because in order for you to meet your true sole mate, they will have to show you qualities that other women have not been able to.
The women in this age group will now appreciate a nice bottle of wine and a restaurant dinner. Don't play cheapskate and don't play big shot unless you can keep it up. Often playing big shot does nothing for women but make them start thinking, “What can I get out of this guy"? You need to have a balance, even though a bit of bluffing makes the date more Hollywoodish. WARNING: Don't over play your cards or you'll just blow stacks of cash!
By going on a date it allows you to get to know these women and you may even enjoy their company. Heaven Forbid, she may even turn into your wife one day!
This age group is more likely to be found hanging out at bars rather than nightclubs. They may even start going to see bands. They are pretty easy to talk with as long as you still use the guidelines discussed in the previous section. They wont put up with as much carry on as when they were younger so you need to be able to run some sort of interesting conversation. To them this is most likely about themselves so if you are armed with enough basic questions, you'll be able to keep the conversation flowing.
WARNING: Don't over do the questions because even a girl will get bored just talking about herself. Contribute your own thoughts and theories to the topics discussed. Don't get too heavy with your opinions because without them knowing you they may form the wrong impression. The first date is not for getting to deep with each other emotionally, but rather an exploration time. If she is expressing an opinion you don't agree with, don't turn it into a slinging match before she has had the chance to fall for you. Wait until later in the relationship to do this. If she states likes or dislikes then try and go along with it and even try finding something in common with her. Everyone hangs out with people of similar thinking so it makes sense to play on the same team. You'll have plenty of time to prove your points about the things you don't like about her thinking!
WOMEN 30 - 35
They are just hanging in by there finger tips. On the other side of the coin, there are many who are even better at this age. Not many though. If they have been single all of this time then you have to ask yourself why? What baggage are they carrying and will I just become another statistic on their scoreboard. This is depending on what you are after of course. If you are after just a good time then all you have to do is to have stayed in reasonable shape and these women will like you. After all, they feel their choices have diminished dramatically once they reach this age. As the saying goes, “All the good ones are taken".
A lot of these women go back into there 18-23 days and they start partying up big time again. They turn into one big fuck and it becomes a little disgusting.
There are positives to this age group. They resign to the fact that they are not having a lot of luck in the man provider department, so they are supporting themselves and have careers in full flight. They can contribute money wise and you may find them to be very attractive with this added bonus.
WOMEN 35 AND ABOVE
These women are now falling away physically and generally mentally. They have been around the block and often have kept going back for many laps. They probably won’t be looking to bear children because they usually have too much baggage and it has soured their thoughts on child bearing. Now I am only speaking generally so if you like this age group then go for it. Sometimes women can be like wine and the older they get the more they have to offer. You just have to look at the quality of the women in the soapies and many of them are this age group and man have they got sex appeal.
MY ADVICE: Make enough money so you don't have to spend sexual time with women that have lost their youthful appearance. Why would you unless you are in love, or desperate? This book will hopefully save your pride by bringing the best out of you. If you don't find your love, you will need to make a lot of money to have the women you desire sexually.
CHAPTER 6
DIFFERENT APPROACHES WHEN HUNTING
1 Ring her up.
This is the standard way to catch the woman you desire. Of course you will need to get the girls phone number. You can either ask her for it, or use some proven techniques that have worked over the years for my friends and I. When talking with a strange girl find out her last name and what suburb she lives in. Once you find out her surname you need to find out who she lives with. Just ask, "Do you live with friends or with your parent"? She'll tell you her living arrangements and you can plan your information gathering from there.
If she lives with her parents it's easy. If her last name is Kelly you should say, " I know a guy who's last name is Kelly from that area and he is old enough to be your father. What’s your dads first name"? She'll tell you and then you say that isn't the name of the guy you know. Once you have this then it is only a matter of ringing the operator to get her home phone number.
If she lives by herself then just do the operator enquire.
If she lives with friends, be a little daring and just ask for her number.
If she has a silent number then you are in trouble. That happens to guys who wont back themselves enough to ask a girl on a date to her face. If you are good at the phone then use it. Just know that you will have to meet with her anyway.
REMEMBER: Only use these tactics if its become too hard to get her number straight from her; like in my story earlier with the Playboy Playmate. Or you may be in a public area and her friends may be hovering around making it too uncomfortable to ask for her number.
Or you may be in her office and people can hear what you are saying and that may hold her back from accepting your offer. Understand that she is at work and has to act as matronly as she can.
The phone is the easiest way to get a date and if you can get the girls number you are in good shape. Just ring and say something along the lines of, "Hi, this is Johnny from the other day at the pub".
Wait for her answer.
Then say, "How are you?"
Wait for her answer and then say, "I guess you may be wondering what I am calling about".
Wait for her answer, “Well its because you really made an impression on me the other day and I'd like to take you out on Friday night this week or the following week. Which night would suit you better"?
Now by giving her a choice of which night to choose from it hopefully eliminates the yes or no answer. You will not get very good results by just asking if she would go out with you, and then waiting for her to reply.
So instead you throw her thinking into, "What am I doing on those nights? Which one would be more suitable"?
You need to play your cards with confidence and assume she will say yes. She will feel this over the phone or in person and it gets a lot of yes answers.
Just ask yourself this question. Would you buy from a salesman that has a suitable degree of confidence, or one that stutters and never asks you to buy anything because he is not really sure of his product? So think like your a salesman selling yourself and that you only ever get a yes answer. You should also naturally assume she will react positively to your advances. Women love confident men and you are showing it just by ringing her and taking initiative.
SEND A LETTER.
Women adore personal letters and I guess men do too. If you have the woman’s address then a letter is an extremely romantic approach. A friend of mine has used this method to get dates and it has worked very well. He once met a girl out, and instead of asking her for her phone number, he asked for her postal address so he could send her a letter. He sent the letter and it worked beautifully. My mate desperately wants a girlfriend, so this style adds the romantic ingredient. Unfortunately it turned out to be a one-night stand, but who's complaining.
When you write the letter you need to be fairly descriptive because they cannot hear the tone of your voice, or see the expressions on your face. A letter will separate you from any other guys approach and this is what will clinch the deal for you. Talk about what you like about her and why. Talk about her best physical feature and what it does for you. If she has a good body then talk about the way she walks, and the commotion she must cause. This introduces sex into her mind without it being sleazy.
NOTE: The man that is successful with women is the one who comes across as having sex appeal. He gets the girls mind racing by using tactics such as talking about her body, and she doesn't think he is being sleazy one bit. They take it as a compliment and it changes your relationship with her straight away.
STORY: I was at gym once and I was checking out a real glam. I knew her although she found it hard to even say hello to me. She felt she was a little too cool for anyone.
I needed to use a piece of equipment near where she was, so we ended up working out next to each other. I commented on how her hair was looking pretty wild today, and did she usually wear it like that. Well, did this change her attitude. She was suddenly speaking to me with enthusiasm.
She walked off and during my work out she kept looking over at me. This was the first time ever she had shown interest in me. It's probably because I never said anything like this to her before, mainly because I am in a relationship. Normally a couple of years ago this sort of comment was usual for me because I was always hunting. This time I said it because I genuinely meant it(How Freaky!). Anyway, to cut a long story short, she always say's hello to me with a friendly smile and I know I could get her if I wanted too. If I break up from my current relationship, I guess it's not a bad idea to have some girls in reserve ready to come off the bench.
APPROACH THE WOMAN FACE TO FACE
It takes courage to do this and it is as effective as any other approach as long as you are comfortable with it.
It is a tricky approach and one that needs very good delivery. You will have to be confident, but not arrogant and in person everything will be on display. The phone and letter approach can hide some things for you. She will know if you are petrified, or if you are sure of yourself when face-to-face!
WARNING: If you are really scared of this approach then use another until you have gained some confidence. The main thing is to be using some approach!
If you are in control then the woman will sense this and you will have an extremely high success rate. The most important thing here is to let her know you are attracted to her and there is nothing too serious about going on a date together. It's for fun and if something more happens it’s a bonus. You must relay this to her in these words or mold them to suit your style.
When you approach her don't stray too much from your intentions or you will get lost in HER conversation. This will mean you are not in control and its hard to turn it around. If she is running the conversation, it's a bad time to ask her on a date. Sure this can still work and does. I will never knock you for trying in any situation however these guidelines will increase your success. It can hit her like a bombshell if you suddenly ask her on a date. You will badly deliver your approach as though you are a Kamikaze. You are best to be the one in control. Then it will flow your way a lot better when you ask for her number to organize a date.
MY ADVICE: Have a set routine of questions and statements. This has to place you in the drivers seat!
NOTE: If she is floundering around with her answer like, "Look I don't date guys I don't no. Thanks for the invitation though". You need to keep your cool and don't get what I call; SOLD into accepting her rejection! She gives you a sound reason as to why she won't go out with you and then thanks you for asking. Now most guys are stuck for words here. They almost always lose the sale because she has talked you out of it when YOU were supposed to be the one in control.
You should say to this, "I understand what you are saying and I actually agree. Now in order to start any sort of friendship with any one you have to let your guard down a little bit to get to know that person. So I'll make you a deal. We wont organize a date with each other just yet. But if you give me your phone number I can call for a chat. If we like each other even more than we do now, we can organize to do something. You can’t get any fairer than that otherwise you may as well be a hermit. So why don't you be a little daring and take a chance. What have you got to lose."
If this doesn't work you have delivered it wrong, or she is as hard as they come and you wouldn't want her anyway.
KEY POINTS IN THIS SCRIPT. "I understand what you are saying and I actually agree". You let her know you understand her. This is the biggest complaint women have of men. They complain men don't listen and they never understand them. You are on the right track by agreeing with her opinion. She probably can't remember the last time a guy reacted to her thoughts like this and she will really love it.
"Now in order to start any kind of friendship with someone you have to let your guard down a little bit to get to know that person". She now believes you are not just trying to sleep with her, and this gets you over that hurdle by talking about a friendship. It also makes sense that you need to let your guard down a little to get to know new people and if she is single then it makes perfect sense. This makes you seem genuine and girls are after that.
"So I'll make you a deal". Instead of her getting her way totally with her rejection, you are appealing to her sense of fair play and a deal is the fair way to go. It also throws the boot back onto your foot with controlling the conversation. Now she is waiting to hear what deal you are prepared to give her.
"We wont organize a date with each other just yet". She feels she is under no pressure even if she gives you her number because you have just said we wont organize a date. You take the pressure of her by saying this and it can relax her with you.
"But if you give me your phone number I can call for a chat and if we like each other even more than we do now, we can organize to do something" Make sure you deliver this sentence in a cheeky way because you are being cheeky. It softens the deliberate confidence you are portraying. You are once again asking for the order(the phone number), and you are saying that you will call only for a chat and if you do get along well she will have the opportunity to organize a date then.
"You can’t get any fairer than that otherwise you may as well be a hermit". Your pointing out how fair you are being with her (just in case she doesn't realize) and that she needs to get out or she may as well be a hermit.
" So why don't you be a little daring and take a chance. What have you got to lose"? Everyone likes to think they are a little daring because this is what exciting people are. Then you state the obvious about what has she got to lose thus down playing the situation once again.
These lines will work for you sooner rather than later. As you become rehearsed with your own finishing touches that suit you, the quicker the results will be.
GET A FRIEND TO SET YOU UP!
There are a lot of variables that affect this approach. It depends on how well, or if you actually know this woman. If you know her then your best to do it yourself. You can however get a friend to plant the seed for you, which will get the woman at least thinking about you in a sexual way. NOTE: Make sure your friend will not over play his or her role here because it can backfire for you.
This approach is best used for women your friends know and you don't. I can't tell you how many friends I have set up and it is the easiest thing possible.
You can paint any picture you like to the girl about your friend and I have never had a girl say no if she was single.
You simply get your mate to ask his/her girl friend to go on a blind date with you. Make sure you arm your friend with the following routine.
1/ The person must say that they think you are compatible. You should adamantly say that wouldn't set each other up with anyone that wasn't.
2/ Tell your friend to be persistent and not to take a no for an answer. The girl will usually um and ar about it even though the excitement is building within them. If your friend lets her off to easily, it probably means you have missed out on a chance unnecessarily.
3/ The girl starts to wonder what the guy is like. "Is he the one? After all you have to meet your man somehow and this is from a friend that knows us both. It's better than in some sleazy bar". If your friend just say's these simple lines of what the girl is probably thinking then they will say yes almost every time.
It's just a matter of your friend highlighting these points to her. She wants to meet new guys and you just have to demonstrate the obvious to her. Follow these points and you will get your mates heaps of dates. Girl’s stuff around with answers but eventually it will be yes; you can count on it.
TOP TEN ICEBREAKERS
Please Note: Your club is decided by rounding your scoreboard down to the nearest bunch of 50 women For instance - If you have fucked 99 individual women you are in the 50 club. If you have fucked 299 women you are in the 250 club and so on.
1 - The Novelty Approach
Donaldo Leronnie - age 40 - scoreboard = 350 club
History - Insurance and investment planner. He owns a pad done up like a true life nightclub. Beer on tap; smoke machine, dance floor, massive sound system and much more. Once owned a Ferrari and also a limousine. Currently drives a Mercedes.
Donaldo was worried the audience in this book would not see the effectivenes of his approach and was reluctant for me to use it. I explained to him that the audience has been taught that successful approaches are not only what you say or do, but how it's delivered is the important thing..
Icebreaker - Don would always carry a particular lighter with him wherever he went. Especially to bars or clubs. It is shaped like a pelican and the light part was a tongue which would slip out when ignited. He would see a girl about to have a cigarette and rush to her inconspicuously and pull out the pelican lighter. Immediately the tongue would slide out and light her cigarette for her. He would then ask if she had ever been lit up like that before?
Reasoning : It's a really casual approach. The chick sees your not trying any Casanova stuff on her and as far as she knows you are just lighting her cigarette. You also demonstrate you are a fun guy. By lighting her cigarette like this you take her mind off the thinking you are just being another sleazy guy.
My Advice: When you use this approach you should have an extra line prepared to continue the conversation. You could say, “Look; for giving you a shock like that I'll buy you a drink to make up for it. Are you drinking champagne or spirits"? Instead of asking what would she like to drink you may want to use this method I just used. You get her telling you about the style of drink she is having. You MUST ask her as though you are generally interested in her style of drink. Once she selects the style you then offer to buy her the same again. If things seem good and you're feeling confident then just order the drink for her. After all; James Bond would!
Rating: 7.5
2 - The Fun Approach
Zodiac - age 28 - scoreboard = 250 club
History - Zodiac is not the real name of this proud member of the Top Ten Icebreaker Medal. It's just a name he has used with new girls and it creates something to talk about.
Zodiac has speculated for investment houses and now has his own Internet Investment Brokerage. I was once at a nightclub with him and a girl came up and started abusing him. He didn't know this girl very well and his response to her was, "Can you calm down? Obviously you’re upset and that makes me worried. How about you come back to my place and we'll talk it over". He didn't wait for her to answer and grabbed her hand and led her towards the exit. As he was walking away with her he turned his head over his shoulder towards me and grinned like a tiger stalking it's next feed. I saluted him with the thumbs up and he walked off into the night. I heard later he fucked her.
At the final meeting involving the Top Ten Icebreakers a certain amount of ridicule came when Zodiac read out his Icebreaker. He got a bit defensive and said something about the superior quality of his scoreboard and how it would match up against anyone’s. I had to agree wholeheartedly. For as long as I have known him he has only ever run true stable stock. In fact I can't remember any nags at all.
Icebreaker - "Your mother must have been a criminal cause who else would have stolen the stars from the heavens and put them in your eyes"?
Reasoning - Your instantly saying something nice to the girl. It's maybe being sarcastic yet what he's saying may be from the heart. She can't quite work it out. The line creates some confusion and the girl will want to work it out. They really and truly in their hearts would love to hear a genuine guy say this. He comes across as non-threatening. The sort of line that sets you up by making the girl feel that she could have a laugh with this guy.
My Advice - If you choose this Icebreaker attention must be made to the delivery more so than any of the others. You must say it so it confuses the girl and it will hopefully get them laughing. This is done by saying it with a smirk on your face. If you think about the psychology here you will more than likely get a laugh reply. If she reacts seriously she would be saying to Zodiac that she really believes what he is saying and that would make her out to be a bit foolish. Most girls will think that laughing is the only response to give. She may even find it amusing? By laughing she protects herself from possible ridicule because she believes he wasn't for real anyway. Now that he has her laughing he has passed step one, which is breaking the ice.
Rating: 7.5
3 - The Cashed up Approach
Ragey - age 38 - scoreboard = 150 club
History - Large Property Developer. His first luxury car was a BMW. Since then he has written off 3 Porsches. He now cruises around in a Porsche 911 convertible 97model. Lives in a Penthouse in the CBD of Melbourne. His approach style with women is to play the millionaire game. Once he has them talking he will do any tactic possible to flirt cash. He won’t go out with less than $2000 in his pocket. I recently went out with him just after he had bought a brand new Porsche. That night he spent most of his time taking girls outside to show them his trump card. His usual strategy of parking right out the front of the club was working. Later in the night Danny Vegas (Danny was with us also) went outside with a horny young big-titted babe and literally just put her in the front seat of Ragey's car. Of course Ragey new the plan Danny had laid for him. You see Danny had told this girl that if she wanted to, she could go for a joyride around the block in a brand new $200,000 sports car. She didn't know it wasn't Danny's car. It would be up to Ragey to close the deal as long as Danny got her into the car . Once they were outside it didn't matter what Ragey looked like, because her eyes sparkled at the site of the convertible. Danny just put her in the front seat and went back inside to party up. Ragey took off while she was dazzled before she had a chance to wonder what had happened to Danny. She sucked Ragey off. Mission accomplished!
Icebreaker - "Hi, your gorgeous! I hope you don't mind but I just had to come up and say hello? Anyway, what's your name"? Wait for answer. "Hi, I'm Ragey. What would you like to drink"?
Reasoning - A girl will acknowledge a compliment. This is especially true if you use this line on hot chicks because they can handle it. No one is rude immediately after they have just been complimented. Therefore it gives you a chance to keep going with your spiel. He cleverly asks if they don't mind him coming to say hello. Most times they will say its okay. If they have a boyfriend you've given them the opportunity to hopefully tell you now so you can move on. He asks for their name. Girls love the sound of their name. He then introduces his name to them and offers to buy a drink.
My Advice - Once you buy her a drink you need to turn the balance of the conversation to your favor.
If you continue to just talk about how great she is sooner or later she will tire of it. You could say in a cheeky way, “So, enough about you, lets talk about me". Have a laugh with her and then tell her something to intrigue her enough to get her interested in changing the conversation towards you.
Rating: 9.5
4 - The Coffee Shop approach / at work
Stevie - age 26 - scoreboard 200 club
History - A computer programmer during the day and mad night clubber at night. He has an individual sense of style with a touch of George Michael thrown in. Always in some sort of cool outfit even if he is just laying around in a casual environment. He's the type of guy a girl would become friends with and then possibly fall in love with. His scoreboard has a large faction in the breast department. He says he is responsible for harvesting many sets of tits through one magic word, the PILL. His testimony was that he has been one of the lucky ones where the pill has enhanced his fetish and not blown out their ass. He is the rookie of the Icebreaker group and was particularly glad to be included.
Icebreaker - Picture yourself waiting around to be served in some cafe and a great looking girl comes into the shop. She takes a moment to make her selection and before she does Stevie would say, "By the looks of it you can't decide what to order". Wait for answer then say, "Yeah, I eat down here all the time. There are some really fantastic places". Wait for answer and if positive say, "Well have you ever eaten at Chichillines"? Wait for answer which will probably be no and then say, "Well I tell you what, here's where I work.(He gives her his card) I'm really close to here so give me a call sometime and I'll take you down there. I'm free Thursday and Friday to have lunch or something so give me a call and we’ll catch up".
Reasoning - Stevie likes to use clichés such as, "Well I'll tell you what, here's where I work". The meaning and desired result from this sentence is the cliché of offering to give your phone number to the girl. However he likes to use cliché’s but with a twist. Mainly he just changes them a little. The reason these type of lines become cliché is because every guy has used them to death. This is because they are effective. Stevie attributes his chick success because he doesn't try and invent the wheel with new lines. What he does is just alter them so they don't sound like, "that old sleazy line that every other guy has used on me". Stevie will always mould his opening lingo around what the girl is doing. He said to me, “At least then you have an instant topic to talk about and it makes it easy for them to join in on the conversation".
My Advice - This line is extremely effective when in the right surroundings. Make sure you’re close to your work and you have an understanding about the cool places nearby. Have some lines ready in case they are familiar with the area or the cafe you are in. Also deliver this sequence as casually as you can.
Rating: 9
5 - The Anywhere/Anytime approach
Chase Johnstone - age 27 - scoreboard = 250 club
History - Chase is a professional tennis coach currently working at the Bel Air country club in Hollywood. He is also a model and actor and it wouldn't surprise me to see him as the next Baywatch superstar. Chase has an athletic build with an all year round tan. Years ago he was shy around women until he faced his fears and started going for what he desired. His scoreboard is motoring along now with pumped up silicon babes from California. I asked Chase about his obsession with silicon tits. "Their the wildest fucks in the world. Because they’re into themselves so much they just parade around the bedroom giving me live porno shows. I don't think I can go back to normal women again".
Icebreaker - "Hey listen, I just have to meet you. I think you’re beautiful". Wait for answer." Look I'm not trying to pick you up or anything like that. But maybe one day if you've got some time off we could have lunch or something"?
Reasoning - He asks her to listen. By saying this she will give her attention to you. He gives her a compliment to make her feel confident about talking to him. He takes away the sleaziness by saying that he is not trying to pick her up or any thing like that. He suggests lunch or something that can really mean anything. He is giving her the chance to say dinner or to have a casual friendly lunch.
My Advice - Say the first line in a confident but nice manner. Make sure the compliment you give her is said with a fair amount of conviction. Be careful to not let it sound as though you worship the ground she walks on. You don't want to tip the balance of power to her favor too much. It's too hard to get back! He relaxes her by saying he is not trying to pick her up. If your lucky it might even disappoint her. This must be said in a way to make her believe you would not usually do this sort of thing. If she flutters around with her answer you should be prepared to come in with a close. Try this. "I'm taking a few days off work next week so how about I get your number and I'll call you to let you know when, and hopefully we can get together".
Rating - 9.5
6 - The Travel / Holiday approach
Balwyn - age 33 - scoreboard = 300 club
History - As soon as Balwyn could get someone to go overseas with him on a pussy adventure the better.
This is the thoughts of our Icebreaker medal winner 15 years ago. He has planted his seed in all seven continents and is close to finishing the country alphabet scoreboard. To date he has fucked an: Austrian - Brazilian - Canadian - Denmark - English - French - German - Holland(Dutch) - Israel - Japanese - Kenyan - Luxembourg - M - Norwegian - O - Portuguese Q - Russian - Scottish - Turkish HOT- USA - Venezuelan HOT 18 year old Huge tits - W X - Yugoslavian - Z
Currently Balwyn is running a personal training business in Australia and feels he is undergoing detox.
"The travel bug is hard to shake".
Icebreaker - "Hi, how are you"? Wait for answer. "Can you tell me where I can find a telephone nearby"?
Wait for answer. "As you've probably guessed I'm not in my home town”. Wait for answer." I want to go out tonight but I haven't got anyone to go with. Hey, would you go out with me and tell me all about this great town of yours".
Reasoning - He starts off with saying hi and then to get a two-way conversation going he asks, "How are you"?
Then he explains his innocent reason for talking with her by enquiring about the nearest telephone.
Balwyn brings up the fact that he is not from around these parts before he asks her out. Then he speaks of his want to go out and then drops in, “Would you go out with me". By now she has forgotten that he only wanted to find a telephone and doesn't realize it was all just a smokescreen. . She's thinking, “I may as well. He's from another place so whatever happens wont be found out". She will also be intrigued because this guy is different and he'll at least be interesting to talk with. After he asks her out he immediately compliments her town. This should make her feel good and it can take the pressure away from the yes or no answer she has to give.
My Advice - After you ask how she is you must try to keep silent until she speaks. Silence after a question can be very powerful and if you hold your ground she will be forced to give a verbal answer. There's no use in reeling off your lines and not involving her. Remember: Always wait for her to answer, as this will tip the odds in your favor. The more she is involved then the greater chance you'll have of catching her. When you actually ask her out you should say it in a way that suggests you just thought of it. If you deliver it in a spontaneous manner you'll increase your sales success.
Rating : 10 Big ones
7 - The Reverse approach
Paul Mac - age 28 - scoreboard = 300 club
History - The greater part of Paul's working life has been spent as a Disc Jockey. Record spinning came to him as easily as spinning shit does. He is one of the smoothest talkers on the chick scene today with an insatiable appetite for African American women. He trains religiously and has shaped his abs and the rest of his body into a sex machine (just ask him).
During his hunting years he has developed a style that takes considerable skill. With practice however, you will become one of those guys who always has babes hanging around.
Paul Mac has been one of my most successful teammates ever. His ability to make the girls feel relaxed was responsible for many orgies. He would take care of that role while I did all the closing. Paul's particular style is built around the girl falling for him as a friend. His expertise is keeping her thinking sexually about him so they don't start to think of him as a brother. He usually maneuvers them mentally into the right frame of mind over a few casual meetings. Timing with this style is absolutely crucial and Paul has uncanny judgment when determining the kill time.
WARNING: Don't overplay the nice guy act without many hours of practice. It's the hardest to turn into roots but when you master it you wont look back.
Icebreaker - "Hi". Wait for answer. "How about you and I go out for a coffee during the week; or maybe even lunch. Just as friends and DON'T get any ideas".
Reasoning - Once again an Icebreaker starts with a hi and then you go silent it involves her which is critical.
Paul suggests coffee or maybe even lunch. Instantly an approach like this will calm the girl’s nerves as to what you are interested in. They think, “He must be genuinely nice because nothing can happen at coffee or at lunch". He tells them he only wants to be friends and then warns them not to try anything because he's not easy. All of this is perfect pick up material. He now has her confused and most likely interested. When delivered with a bit of fun and some cockiness you will turn the approach into your court. Your goal with this is to make her believe that just because you are asking her out doesn't mean she has got you.
My Advice - Say this with enthusiasm and as much spunk in your voice as you can gather. Okay, she has got you asking her out but make it sound as though she will still have to do a bit more to get you. When you deliver approaches with cockiness your goal is to sound sure but not arrogant. If she um's and ar's you can add, “Gee, I was so nervous about coming and talking with you and now your wondering whether or not a coffee is okay. It's not as if I asked you to go on a midnight riverboat cruise or anything like that". This should get her laughing and it downplays the scariness of having coffee with you.
Rating: 10 Double D's
8 - The seductive/nighttime approach
Danny Vegas - age 33 - scoreboard = 600 club
History - Danny and I met as bouncers at the same pub. He was more interested in catching girls than the job and I guess that's why we hit it off. He's a tall and muscular guy and carries off a particular dress sense. Invariably it involves a tight pair of fitted pants and an open shirt. In fact his style is to get his shirt off whenever possible. You see he understands the theory of using your best qualities to attract women. is always well tanned whether it be fake or the real thing. Once I walked out of a nightclub with Danny and a girl, and his rub on tan had gone all patchy. It didn't faze him and we went on to both fuck the girl in the back of his van. As I talked about previously in the book, Danny lays claim to fucking 3 separate girls in the space of twenty minutes. One of these girls was a ~~~~HOT~~~ Asian honey, and the other two had beautiful full breasts, and firm asses which poked up towards the sky like mouth watering peaches. I can just see him now as I look back. It could well have been the Lone Ranger when he had them in doggy waving his right arm in the air while clenching on to their small waists with the other. HI HO.... DANNY!
Icebreaker - "How ya doin"? Wait for answer. "I was wanting to find out what your name is"?
Wait for answer no 1 which will be say," Mandy". Then he says, “Hi Mandy, My names Danny. It's really nice to meet you".
Wait for answer no 2 which will be, “Why"? Then he says, “Because I find you captivating"! Reasoning - Danny asks how she is doing which is really one of the first things anyone should say with their lines. Danny says that the asking of the name is something everyone wants people to know. Once you know a girls name then you are in the ballpark. You can even leave her at that stage if at a club, and then easily talk with her later because you are now friends. He repeats her name once he gets it, which is music to her ears. He then proceeds to tell her how nice it is to meet her and he makes her feel really comfortable with him. If he has to use the second instance he compliments her in a way that probably know else has before.
My Advice - Say the first 2 lines in a confident and pleasant way. Once you get to the rest of the breaker you must say it in the most seductive way you can. When done properly you will change the initial friendly approach into thoughts of electricity between the two of you. If she goes for this approach I would immediately talk into her ear with a bit of face touching. If that goes unscathed, I would then place my hand on the small of her back gently the next time I said something to her. REMEMBER: Body contact is what leads to their panties.
Rating - 10
9 - The Nightclub approach
Markovich otherwise known as Captain Powerfuck - age 37 - scoreboard 1000 club
History - Markovich originates from Yugoslavia. He has a strong accent which lets him get away with cheekier than usual comments with girls.
The last 10 years he has always driven some sort of sportscar.
He is 6ft 3 inches tall and weighs in at a lean and muscular 95 kg's. At seventeen he started as a bouncer in public bars and now owns and operates his own nightclub called Millennium in Melbourne. Training is a large part of his mental and physical life. During his career he has maintained many stables of women. Even in his lean periods of only one new girl per week he has kept a star studded entourage in full pumping motion. Captain Powerfuck was given to him because he fucks at 144 ppm's(pumps per minute)
He wants to find his soul mate and to this moment he has never had a serious relationship. Once found he claims he will be monogamous.
At the Top Ten Icebreaker meeting Stevie asked if Markovich still had what it takes to deliver a powerfuck.
Everyone went silent and turned towards Markovich. It was like the colt asking the stallion if he still had it in him or was it time to move over and let the young through. Markovich answers in a jovial way, “I like you, but don't get too cheeky buddy boy"! You have to understand readers that Markovich has not reached his peak and feels he wont until he turns 50. He says that at this time he will choose a woman for marriage even if she isn't his soul mate. Until then he'll just keep pounding until their screaming, “Don’t stop! I LOVE IT}}}". I've been in many an orgy with Captain Powerfuck. Each time I'm entertained at how he just keeps taking the red line to that extra level on the fuckometer.
Icebreaker - "Hello". Wait for answer. "Come over and we'll have a chat. After all, isn't that what clubs are all about? You know, meeting and greeting people".
Reasoning - Markovich says he rarely breaks the ice. He doesn't like the cold approach and so he prefers to create a melting sensation first. Before his initial approach he will try and get some mind contact happening. First it starts with the eyes and then the body language. He may even wave to the girl across the bar in an easy going way. This is really effective because it registers his interest in her mind and at the same time shows he is not up himself and he is friendly. He talks about clubs are for meeting and greeting people and what normal girl will argue with that? You need to remember what this girl was doing a few hours ago. She was in front of the mirror chopping and changing outfits so men will notice her. It's as though he is jogging her memory as to why she really came out.
My advice - These lines have to be delivered with personality. Remember you're on sale when approaching women so go for it. You could then say, “Come with me and we'll grab a drink". Then you take her hand and lead the way. Show confidence and take the initiative! It turns women on!
Rating : 10 * 100 chicks
10 - The Daytime / beach approach
Johnny Shack - age28 - scoreboard = 500 club
History - Heaps of laughs and good times Icebreaker - "How ya doin"? Wait for answer. "Do you know just how beautiful your hair is"? Wait for answer. "And look at that! You've got a really friendly smile too". Wait for answer. "Can I ask you something before I go"?
"How about you give me your number and I'll call you for a chat. But don't think this means you've got me or anything"!
Reasoning - The girl has hopefully not been approached with the hair line. It's actually a question, so she will 9 times out of ten respond to it. This is good because it involves her, and doesn't steam roll her too much, which can cause a negative answer to my eventual last question. MAKE SURE YOU SAY IT TO SOUND LIKE A QUESTION. A STATEMENT RARELY GETS RESPONSES FROM GIRLS WHO DON'T KNOW YOU.
This line will make her smile instantly, which gives you something else to comment on. By mentioning how friendly her smile is, you set yourself up in the best possible position. It's all just a little bit more conversation before you pop the big one. It also makes it harder for her to say no to you when you do ask for her number. This is because girls relish in compliments, and are nice underneath all their bullshit. She thinks that if she doesn't say yes to your request for her number, she is being mean. In fact she may think it might change your whole opinion of her. Even if she is not fully interested, your giving yourself a great chance by saying how friendly her smile is. She will think, “What the heck, he seems to be a nice guy". To test this theory you should ask yourself this, “If the biggest dickhead in the world is really nice to you, and compliments you on your friendliness, would you treat him like shit? Or would you maybe even say he's not so bad after all and give him a chance".
When you ask to say something before you go make certain you wait for her to give the green light. The more times she says yes to you, then the more chance there is of her saying it when it really matters.
You also say you are going to leave. This puts the ball a little bit back in your court. You've made her feel wonderfully in control and suddenly you're the one leaving her.
Girls are used to guys dogging them so this somewhat throws her off guard. She may think, “Does he really mean all of this? He's pretty confident to come and talk with me and then just go like that. Maybe I have to do something to keep his interest"? Your aim is to get the date. But you also need to make her work for you a bit too. It's tricky stuff, and these lines will do it for you.
You ask for her number to have a chat with her meaning at another time. There's nothing scary about this and you will sound pretty in control of things.
You then throw in the line about it not meaning she's got you or anything. Say this with a bit of a laugh and it will take away the commitment that giving you her number may seem. It's all about creating the impression that it's no big deal to do this and I'm not going to hassle you. These lines delivered properly will make her think that she is special yet lucky to have you saying them to her. Master this through practise and guts and you'll thank yourself for taking notice.
Rating: It cannot fail when your timing and delivery gel together.
DATE TIME
You've landed the date and now its time to go through with it. What will I wear ? Where will I take her?
What will I talk about? These are the most commonly asked questions I came across with my studies that men have to answer.
A suit and tie is really over doing it unless you are going to a function that dictates this sort of get up.
However you must look as cool as possible because this is make or break tonight. Now don't go dressed like the Fonz unless this is your style. If you don't know what to wear then you better find some mate that does. It's about time you lashed out on some gear anyway. She'll judge you immediately you pick her up just the same way you will make an opinion of her.
This is as important as the conversation during the date is. The conversation will most likely be the normal sort of restaurant chitchat mainly made up of questions and frivolous statements. When you pick her up (you should pick her up because it puts you in control from the start of the date) you must go to the door. The thinking that you can honk your horn out the front is not starting the date off very well. If she lives with her parents then you will not be very popular from the outset. Even if she lives alone it is being arrogant and on the whole arrogance is unattractive when overplayed.
Flowers are an option and it depends on how you have organized the date. If you have planned to go to a beautiful restaurant then this can work very well. It will set the mood of a romantic night. You must make sure the rest of the night will suit the presentation of flowers or it will make them seem a bit of a joke and you may appear to be a jerk that has no idea.
If the date was made out to be something casual then you should keep it this way. If you are going to the pictures then flowers are not really suitable.(The pictures are a bad place to take a date if it is your first with this woman. This is because you can't really get to know each other very well because you are sitting there watching a movie. Movie dates are for kids and you shouldn't be thinking this way)
My personal style used to go like this. I would pick the girl up and then go for drinks with her. A relatively quite place would be where I would take her so we could talk. There is no use in being in a crowded place full of drunks. If the place is quite you can get some really good conversation going and find out about the girl. I found drinking was a good idea mainly because it always loosened things up.
WARNING: Don't get too drunk and messy because it doesn't work very well. I did this far too many times (although it was a laugh and my mates enjoyed the stories) and it stuffed me up on one occasion when I really liked the girl and I couldn't get a date with her again. Hey give me a break; even Mike Tyson has lost.
The right amount to drink is where it loosens you up to be entertaining. But don't drink enough to get you entertaining the people next to you and you end up dancing on the table.
Always open the door of the car for the woman and let her sit down first if you are in a restaurant. Act as though this is just standard behavior for you and you are a cool guy with style. Open all doors for her and let her go first. Women love to be treated like ladies at the appropriate times, which is mainly in public. Most of my dates ended up in the bedroom and then I really didn't ever see the girl again. I didn't really want to after I had already had my way with her. Occasionally I would come across a girl that I liked and I would not take her to bed that night. I wanted to add some more spice to this relationship than just having sex with her so I would leave that stuff until another time. I would kiss and hug and touch her though to make sure I would get the next date with her. This is the date that I would be prepared to spend some extra money on to enjoy it by going out for dinner. I would always have wine as it gets you drunk and her hopefully sloshed. This just made the sex easier to get and usually wilder.
If you can afford to pay for everything then you should do it. Most of the time a girl would sooner or later offer to buy 1 or 2 of the rounds and I would say okay. I would pay for about 75% of it though. If you are out to dinner then you should pay for the whole amount. Could you imagine a girl on a date with a celebrity and she pays half of the bill? You need to work this out for yourself but if you can afford to then you should do it.
They feel a sense of owing you something and it keeps you in the drivers seat. It also make you more exciting to her. All women want the man to pay unless they're the type to really insist on it. Sometimes a girl will insist on paying half the bill even after you may have insisted you will. If they do this they are either a cool chick or you are out of luck that night. This girl will need some constant work if you are going to land her.
It most likely won’t be that night so let her pay because nothing will happen other than maybe a kiss at the end. You will need to decide if she is worth chasing any longer before you drop her back home. If she is then you must hold and kiss her and tell her you will ring her. You must do this or you will lose the best opportunity you may get to spice up the relationship with her. If you do not do this then any spark that you had going will probably fizzle out. You need to add fuel to the fire at the right times to keep it burning.
HOW TO ACT ON A DATE
Now some guys think they’re so desirable that they can just act themselves totally and the girl can either like it or lump it. If you choose this option then you are going to be in for a long haul to find Miss Perfect.
It's pretty rare the chances of you gelling with someone perfectly from the outset. Not many girls will like you if you are 100% natural immediately. Girls will succumb much more to a night of fantasy even if they smell bullshit. The key is to mould your personality a little around theirs. You need to be compatible with her thinking and at the same time show a side of individual coolness. Enough coolness to set off her excitement clitometer. Add some mystery to the conversation that ignites her imagination. Show some spunk about you with a few cheeky comments. Everything is about creating an aura about yourself which will be enough to turn her feelings on. After you do this you can decide whether or not you want her?
Be aware of treating her like a lady even if she ends up not being one. They all love to paint a virgin picture about themselves and you should play on this. They also love the fantasy of being treated like a princess so if that’s what they want then you should give it to them to the degree you are comfortable with. After a few loosening up drinks the nights events and possibilities will unfold and you can make your mind up about how to handle her. She may stay a lady and then you need to decide if you like her personality enough to see her again. Oh no, HEAVEN FORBID! Actually like a girl? It can happen to the best of us!
If she starts flirting then go with it if you like her. To start the flirting the guy usually needs to be the instigator and if your lucky you'll be opening a can of worms. If she is really flirty and suggestive then you should take a secondary role and let her play the game the way she likes. This type of girl wants a chase and if you play a little innocent and hard to get she will dig her nails in deeper to get you. This type may even make you feel cheap. TRUST ME; you'll get over it.
If you show your cards too early you'll blow (there will be plenty of time to blow your load later) the opportunity for a night of hot sex. She is probably a bit of an ego maniac and if she thinks you are just putty in her hands too early she'll move on..
STORY: A mate of mine is a professional tennis coach traveling the world. He was recently in Melbourne and he told me an amusing story. This guy acts Mr. Nice Guy when he is in a relationship to the stage that the girl wouldn't have a clue about his true self. He wouldn't swear or curse around her and he is actually pretty old fashioned when in love. When he was overseas he wrote a letter to a mate of his in New Zealand telling him about his scoreboard and how well he was going with chicks. He also spoke about when he hit London airport and how an old girlfriend of his was supposed to pick him up. She didn't turn up. Anyway he met up with her the following day and in his letter he said QUOTE " My low down ho of a girlfriend wasn't there to pick me up so to punish her I wouldn't bang her for the first half an hour of seeing her". How harsh of him. Let's get this straight. His punishment for this girl was to not let her fuck him for the first half an hour after they saw each other. I laughed when he told me and then he said, “I don't make the rules, I just play by them". Well; he has got a point!
It was a very entertaining letter and it was great to hear he was getting a good taste of International ass.
The rest of the letter went on to say, “I was speaking with my girlfriend in L.A recently on the phone and she told me I had left a letter behind on her bed and that she had read it". Can you believe that Mr. Nice Guy was uncovered? It reminded me of the time Homer built the Wonder car for his brother Herb. When the curtain was drawn to present it to the world a feeling of disbelief and disgust came across the audience. Homer sent his Billionaire brother broke that day. Well don't worry Chase (the letter writer), we're all feeling for you. This brings back my ever-entrusted learning I went through in High School. When you’re having a piss at the men’s urinal 3 shakes are considered okay. Any shaking above this quota will automatically brand you a WANKER. Ahhhh, the many joyful hours I've spent in front of the computer with towel in hand. I suppose the evolution of change is upon us. It used to be a magazine.
Unfortunately the letter reading ended their relationship. Later that night he opened up to me and spoke of his grief. "I couldn't bare not having a set of tits to snuggle up to. My weeping over my ex girlfriend kept me home all night". "All night", I said caringly. He replied," So I decided to not let her dictate my happiness and I did something about it". It seems he pulled himself together by going out the following night hunting for greener pastures.
BRAVO! BRAVO! Where with you all the way! By the way, if there is room in the closet can I reserve a spot?
CHAPTER 7
HOW MUCH SHOULD YOU TELL YOUR WOMAN
What an interesting question this is. Men have lost their empires by revealing all to women and they probably will continue to. It's called the “power of the pussy" for those of you that didn't know. Remember Sampson and how a woman cut off his hair. If she didn't know this weakness of his he would not have been in this situation. Ah; when will men ever learn? Maybe when hormones are given out in much more controlled dosages.
If you cheat on your woman should you go and do the honorable thing and tell her everything? NO WAY! "I have always been truthful to my woman and I want to keep it that way". Would you just sit down and take a good hard look at yourself man. It's a bit late now don't you think to be playing Mr. Honorable! In fact any guy that tells his wife he has cheated on her is not honorable but selfish. What he is really doing is relieving his guilt trip by hanging it on his wife asking for forgiveness. You hurt her by your actions and the relationship will never be the same again. If you are that upset about cheating then control what’s under your belt and go and join a sex site on the internet. That will provide you with more than enough relief.
SHOULD I TELL MY WOMAN ABOUT MY PAST LOVERS?
In one short answer NO! Women do not understand what sex means to men compared to what it means to women. Because sex is about sharing and love to women and they will automatically think you can have feelings for anyone. This undermines the specialness of the feelings you have for her in her mind.
Sure the woman you may be with has had some partners before but on the whole their scoreboard is not solely made up of 1-night stands. They usually have only done this occasionally and most of their partners have been in some sort of relationship. Could you imagine if my friends who are in the 1000 club told their partners about their previous sex life. I don't think many girls would believe it, but if they did they would lose feelings for this person and start to think of them as a male prostitute. They may even feel a sense of cheapness within themselves for being one of your scoreboards statistics.
THEN HOW DO I ANSWER THIS QUESTION ABOUT NUMBERS OF PARTNERS?
A figure is the wrong answer to give either if you are down playing your results or exaggerating them. You don't know what your woman would find acceptable so don't even try with giving figures. The problem also is maybe you don't really have the truth about their historical scoreboard so please do not use that as your benchmark.
The best answer goes something like this. "None of the girls I have been with in the past have meant as much to me as you do and therefore I would prefer not to even have to think about them." Then she'll say," I don't care you how many girls you have been with I just want to know." Now if you fall for this no matter how much it seems she means it then you haven't registered a single thing we have talked about in this book. You're a hopeless romantic and softie and most probably a sucker. DON'T FALL FOR THIS! You can answer this with a smile on your face and say, "Well if you really want to know, you will have to go and get a calculator for me". This laughs off the question whilst giving the impression you were a bit of a stud in demand and then she feels somewhat lucky to have snared you. Always give them this impression and you will be the one with at least 51% control. Just that controlling interest will make your life that much better compared with the alternative.
HOW TO GIVE FLOWERS?
Flowers represent "love" to women. There the easiest present you can ever give yet one of the most emotional.
The ultimate is for your girl to find the flowers on her bed when she arrives home. The bed is the most romantic place and it will have her melting. It puts them under some sort of dizzy spell. You could not come home the next night and as long as your excuse is reasonable, you'd get away with only minimal complaint. REMEMBER: She wont let the flowers feeling go away that quickly because you've touched her inner emotions. This probably is quite rare if you are a normal type of guy.
Restaurants have flowers. Remember the Garden of Eden. Picnics involve lots of lovely flowers. Weddings are full of flowers. Girl’s bedrooms often smell of flowers or have them. These scenarios have all got one thing in common; they're all very romantic and they always involve flowers.
Now when you give the flowers to her, or set it up for her to find them, you must do a couple of very important moves that will ensure the potency of the gift. Make sure you select flowers that are already blooming gloriously. Throw in some flowers that are on the verge of blooming, so in a couple of days the bunch will still be going strong. Do not listen to any florist about buying an assortment that is c l o s e... to blossom standard. They don't understand how you don't do this very much, so the presentation has to be 100% spot on for the moment she first lays her eyes on them. It actually doesn't matter how they'll look in a couple of days because the initial excitement and presentation is what will get your desired effect.
You must do whatever you can to make sure the girl first sees them in wrapping paper. A friend of mine once bought some flowers for his wife and he wanted to put them in a vase with water before she saw them. He had a good idea if the purpose of the flowers were to lighten and freshen the room. However this was for an anniversary. Wrapping paper stands for present. It's always so much more exciting to been given something with wrapping paper around it. The recipient has to be the one to unwrap their own present. It's just part of the thrill of receiving a gift.
WHEN TO ACT YOURSELF AND WHY?
At the start of the dating process you need to create romance and some fantasy. There is plenty of time to be 100% yourself and the initial dating stage is not the time to do it. In fact many men if they were to act themselves completely on the first date would not get anywhere. Imagine swearing at the restaurant and burping and belching and talking about the weekend football. This is not something many women would enjoy let alone put up with.
You must sooner or later act yourself. How far should you go with this? Well as long as you hold respect for your woman you will not overstep the boundaries that would make you a pig. There is a time and a place for the footy club talk and a time for spending with your partner. The problem some men make is they try to be like the way they were on the first date always and it leads to destruction. Probably your own because everyone wants to be understood. How can your lover ever understand you if you don't reveal yourself to her? This only eats away at you because it is someone else’s personality the girl is in love with.
WARNING: NICE GUYS FINISH LAST AND ALWAYS WILL.
Now hang on. I'm not trying to say you can't be a nice guy and get the women you desire. What I am saying is that if you do not take initiative then very rarely will the woman. This will lead your relationship with her to a disastrous crash and burn. You'll be back having to chase another woman when it could have worked out famously with this one that you wanted to play so-called nice guy with. You don't make any heavy moves towards this lady and you try and treat her with as much respect as possible. In fact you go so far to impress this lady you are too nervous to let a good degree of your charm shine through. You think, "What if I offend her by saying or doing the wrong thing?"
I went on a date with an absolutely beautiful girl from Paris a few years ago. All of my friends that did very well with hot looking women wanted to land this girl. She was what might be called a, "talking point date amongst friends".
If I'd had the attitude of I'll play it so nice I'll bore her to death I would have struck out. I went to a bar with her called BARFLIES at the top of Burke St in Melbourne. I know the owner John there and he gave me a tab with the drinks. I also liked going somewhere where I knew the owner because it makes you look good. I ended up getting very drunk and she was too. It was time to leave and I had asked for the bill. I realized I had not enough money to pay for the bill and these sort of hot women do not expect to pay for anything when they go on a date. She ended up putting in money and because I made up some story about my wallet she accepted it and she only had to put in about $20 or so.
She was a little drunk and I overcame the situation by acting as though it was no big deal and with assertiveness got her to put in some money. If I'd started fumbling around saying, "OH no, what are we going to do for the bill, this is so embarrassing", then it would have put some tension on the situation. Instead I just laughed it off with a joke about women’s liberation and that she was helping the cause by chipping in. It made it a fun situation when it could have stuffed everything up for me.
I ended up getting her to drive home because I used the excuse that I had too much to drink and the rest is history… SWEET HISTORY... to which many a friend knows the story. I'd like to keep the rating of this book down if possible so I wont go any further with this one. I'm sure you get the drift though!
I was interviewing a friend on the subject of why he wasn't getting serious with any girls. He also wasn't getting laid very regularly. This guy has a $200,000 Porsche and a Penthouse apartment decked out in the most luscious way. He is in his 30's with a reasonable build and pretty good looking.
First of all you must understand that this guy was starting get a little upset with his predicament. Wouldn't you?
He was getting plenty of dates therefore plenty of opportunity. He was getting dates with TV personalities and models.
He was placing these women on some sort of a pedestal and was too scared to make any sort of a move on them. Just because they're famous or glamorous does not mean they do not want the same things as uglier girls or less famous ones do. The International want is romance and sex. There are very few exceptions to this rule.
We discovered the problem was that he was playing Mr. Nice Guy too much. He would show the girl a great time and then he would let them go home without even kissing them. Now many inexperienced guys would ask what is wrong with that? I believe not making a move will probably blown your chances and it just gets harder to do the longer you wait.
REMEMBER: Women want and expect men to do all of the initiating because it protects them from seeming slutty. But mark my words. If you have the woman on a date and you are getting along reasonably and there is some alcohol involved then they are just waiting for you to take the initiative. What you need to remember is that the woman has agreed to a date with you, which means she is attracted to you.
Now this guy would have a good time with the girl and then organize another date with her. Either this or he asks to call her the following week. He has just stuffed up everything at the point of making no sexual contact.
Have you ever been with your best mates and at the end of the day you have run out of new topics to talk about? You can still enjoy their company without talking however.
This brings me to my next point: The reason you don't have to keep talking is because you know you're mate so well that silence does not mean you are not getting along.
However you need to be talking all the time on a date because you don't know this woman very well. Without body contact, you are going to have to do exceptionally well by the next date to keep the conversation going. Remember that you have already spoken about most of yourself and silence is uncomfortable with this person. This ultimately leads to the relationship fizzling out because you did not involve sexual activity. If you want to play nice guy and not go for the money on the first date then that is okay. You must however start sexual contact on the first date, even if it is just a kiss at the end of the night with a hug. Try and squeeze her firmly so she can feel you are a man and that she is safe when you are around to look after her. They love this! Another plan of attack is to hold her hand during the night or at least go arm in arm with her.
Just picture the times you have left a situation with a girl and you have not made a move on her. You kick yourself because opportunities are put in front of you to have the courage to capitalize on them. Maybe this is why most people aren't rich. They have opportunities staring them in the face and they either don't recognize this or they are to scared to have a go in case they fail. Michael Jordan has had more missed shots than anyone. This is also why he has made so many because he goes for it. Babe Ruth who was one of the greatest Baseball batsmen had more strikeouts than most of his teammates. Because he went for a home run every time he ended up hitting records of home runs. These guys have the courage to chase what they want and go for it.
Now you must realize you are on a date with this girl and dates are for some sexual contact. The woman wants you to make a move. I've had women say to me why didn't I make a move earlier and they were starting to think I didn't like them. Even just a kiss creates great electricity in women. Women love to kiss. If you kiss her it means she leaves you excited and somewhat committed to you. You'll almost definitely get a second date with her when you ring again. This woman will lie in bed that night and some nights to come fantasizing about you. What would it be like to have sex with you? What would it be like to have you as her boyfriend? The kiss and hug is like the kindling for a fire. It must be lit for fire to happen.
CHAPTER 8
THE CEMETERY
A couple of years ago I had been smoking some pot with a friend. We went for a drive and for some reason ended up at a cemetery in Melbourne. We went for a walk through the pathways and all was very silent. At the front of the paths were the newest graves and back went the previous graves. You could see the newer ones because they were the ones that still had flowers placed on them and also the headstone or plate was newer.
It was harsh reality staring us in the face. The older graves had no one visiting anymore because they were forgotten or their families and friends had moved on. We discovered how our time on earth was so short and that no one except your immediate family and some very close friends really give a stuff about you.
Even your family has to move on with their lives once you are dead. It's nothing new and it probably won’t change. SO WHY ARE YOU WORRIED ABOUT WHAT SOMEONE WILL SAY IF YOU ASK A WOMAN OUT ON A DATE? Why even let yourself get nervous? Why even hesitate if you want something?
You are only having these feelings of shakiness because of other peoples opinions you are so worried about They don't care if you live or die buddy so why worry about what might be said behind your back. To go even further, who cares what anyone thinks at all if you are fighting your fears by going for what you desire.
If it was only you and this woman you desire on a deserted island, would you go and talk to her and give it your best shot? Of course you would, dickhead! The reason is that you would not have to worry about being rejected because no one is there anyway. In real life if you are rejected then move on. There is a positive reason for this rejection. If only you guys could understand this! You are being led through life by your guardian angels and if it means this girl is not the right stop for you well then forget it and move on. As long as you gave it a proper shot then you will feel at peace with yourself any way and you will progress naturally.
Do you really think this is the only woman who can make you happy? That line is the biggest facade in life today. There are so many women in this world. But you have become stupid enough to think that without a particular one you will never be satisfied or happy!
Before you get married it is easy come and easy go so run with it and accept it. Even when married most marriages stay together for many reasons other than love for each other. What, you don't think that around the corner there is a woman who is more beautiful; more funny; more interesting; wilder; crazier; sexier; bigger breasts; more lady like; a better cook; a more loving mother type; as loyal and just better all over.
There is always a newer model being made every day so don't panic if the one you are after is not after you. You must keep going for what you want and statistics will win out for you.
Have you ever seen a tennis match won by someone who wasn't even playing the game?
No you haven't; so don't wait around for Miss Perfect to come knocking your door down and GET in the game! You and only you will decide your own fate and happiness. If you don’t then you will die one day thinking I should have, and what about if I did and I wonder what that person was thinking. Or would you prefer to be at peace with yourself because you had some courage. Success is a recipe of people who say, "Stuff it, I'm having a go".
The End!
